Thinking about dropping out.

[Hellfire]

I would happily drop out, the only thing that has stopped me from asking my mom, is what people will think of me, and what my mom would say.

 

 

Both my parents are drop outs, my mom was pregnant with my oldest brother (there's three of us) around 17...

They both smoked, they tell us they have had money problems their whole life.

Their parents couldnt really help them, because their parents werent exactly rich back then either.

Now their life seems fine to me, even though they are having a bit of troubles right now, because they are sending my middle brother to college...

 

That's the only reason they're having money troubles right now. We live in a rather nice apartment (around $600 a month I think) the water is payed for, we pay for electricity, and what not.

 

We have digital cable, cable internet, and a car they're paying off.

Their life seems perfectly fine to me!!!!

Im definetely comfortable with my life....

 

Ok. Me I dont have a kid , I dont smoke (I dont think I stated they both smoked at my age..im 16) and I dont really want kids. If I do have a kid, it's only going to be one, and I really dont want a kid...

 

Im in the 10th grade, im probably going to fail the 10th because I didnt try, and I failed my all my classes :|. Im suppose to be in the 11th....

 

School just dosent make me happy period. It's not the work, it's not the people....anymore...

 

 

I just dont see my future life needing school.

 

Here's the things i've thought about doing in life...

 

-Masuse

and

-Massage Therapy

 

I dont know if I could just go to some school for that, that dosent require a diploma, and get a license to do that, or what...

 

I've also thought about running drugs across the border, and being an assassin. Heh, but I guess those are just my fantasies .

 

Yea, so I dont know anymore, like I said before (I think I did at least) the only thing that keeps my from dropping out is what people will think of me, and what my parents will say.

[dnm1010]

at least get your GED.

 

you need a high school diploma or GED to be a manager in mcdonalds, as well as other things. look into a vocational school or a massage school and see their requirements. if ure gonna drop out- which i dont reccomend but i do know poeple who have and have "fixed" their lives- do it the smart way.

[Hellfire]

Yes I would get my GED.

 

I want to drop out, study for a year, take my test to get a GED.

 

Get a remedial job somewhere, save my money, move in with a friend, split the rent, then see about getting a more high paying career (I know it would be hard)...

 

Hell like I said...drug runner .

 

No I dont plan to work at mcdonalds!! I'd rather work with cars, and cleaning them out before I get stuck at mcdonalds, or some crap.

Seriously I worked their as a summer job this summer, and yea...

[Neptune]

You want to look at life as a continual education process. You have a valid point to question whether the education achieved in school is worth your time and effort. I think anyone with a 10th grade education and is motivated to pursue what gives passion in life will be a success. But, it may not be measured in monetary wealth.

 

Follow your dreams. But, I will caution you to keep it legal. Yes, there is a lot of quick money on the wrong side of the line. That line has always existed. Remember, you pay your dues for the life you chose:)

[Hellfire]

I would really like more comments about this :|

[suegail]

I guess what I'm thinking is that you'll find that going into something like massage therapy will still require you to attend classes, read, study, take tests. I have a friend who took such a class and she was required to learn quite alot of anatomy.

 

Maybe though you'll find that you'll excell because it's something you will be interested in learning. My friend actually did pretty well as a massage therapist. She had lots of clients and the money was good, so I would think you could do quite well.

 

I know that 20 some odd years ago or perhaps more many people did drop out because they could easily learn a trade somewhere, many factory jobs were available and the pay was pretty good...it just seemed easier to do that sort of thing than it is now.

 

One option has always been military because you can have a lifelong career...they offer the training and pay and if you live on base I believe that's paid for, but at this time it's not always such a good option because they're shipping so many off to war.

 

Whatever decision you make, I wish you all the best..

[Hellfire]

Well my oldest brother has a high school diploma, he lives on his own, he dosent make that much a week, and he's pretty happy.

 

I myself could really live without much money, the problem for me is what about my "life long partner" ?

 

I dont really want to have kids, but if my wife (if I am to marry someday) wants kids then I would certainly have them. I dont hate them, I just dont see a need for them.

[quankanne]

my first thought: don't do it. You'd only screw yourself over. Getting a GED is marvelous, but that should be your emergency option, not your goal when you've got the opportunity to finish high school without hardship.

 

have you spoken with your school counsellor about this? About maybe setting up a course schedule that allows for you to get into classes that interest you? Massage therapy sounds like an excellent idea ... but you prolly want to know more about human physiology – hell, you'd NEED to know more about human physiology, and you can look at your HS classes as a tool to help you achieve this goal.

 

it's not easy trying to make a life, and I'm a college graduate in professional job. I don't live extragantly but I still live from paycheck to paycheck to pay for the roof over my head, my car, my car and homeowner's insurance, utilities, etc. I think maybe right now you're looking at options -- and rightfully so -- without considering what comes attached to those options. If you drop out of school, are your parents going to allow you to live rent-free in your home? Are you driving yet? If you don't have your license, will the state allow you to get one if you're not in school? Will your folks expect you to get your own vehicle and pay for insurance and upkeep? How much will you have to pay for your upkeep if they allow you to live at home? How will you pay for school? If you're working, how are you going to handle that with getting your GED? Will you devote yourself to studying for that when you can barely get through your high school classes without any other outside responsibilities?

 

my take on it is that you're bored and/or depressed and you're looking for easy answers, like the drug running bit. Do you really want to sell yourself short by getting into a career like that? I guarantee, it will mean instant loss of respect of 75-80 percent of the people you know; you're going to find more and more "friends" who are going to want something from you without anything in return. Is this what you want?

 

you mention a lifelong partner: hate to say it, but what sane woman is going to want to try to make it with someone who looks for the easy answers in life? It's one thing to drop out of school because you've got other responsibilities and there's no other way to meet them – that tells her you're willing to make sacrifices when necessary and are willing to meet responsibilities – but doing it for reasons you propose will make her think you're lame. And no sane woman wants a lame man ...l

[agnf666]

By not graduating high school is going to be a thing you will regret for the rest of your life. Believe me my mom didn't graduate, my grandparents didn't graduate. They regret it majorily. I would go take GED courses and get your GED and then go start thinking about what you want to do. GED test is hard. There is this online course you can take that will give you your high school diploma after you complete the course. If you are interested in knowing just PM me.

 

Nowadays, you need a High SChool diploma to do just about everything. So, it is important.

[Hellfire]

It said I didnt have sufficient privelages to send a PM, but I am interested.

[whichwayisup]

You're selling yourself short Hellfire. At 16 you don't know if you want kids. That is normal, especially for a guy. I think some men at age 30 aren't sure if they're ready to have kids. Don't think so far ahead in the future, so much can happen, opportunities can come your way and change your life! Live in the now and just concentrate on what's infront of you.

 

Maybe you could go to another highschool if you're not happy at this one. Or just focus ALL your energy into your school work, forget those idiots around you if they're being s***ty to you. (I know, easier said than done.)

 

Don't compare yourself to your brother, what works for him and makes him happy may not be right for you.

 

You seem like a bright guy, with a full future ahead! Don't give up on school! It will be something you could regret later in life.

 

Find out what your passion is. Photography, art, music, computers, cars, mechanics, something. Then focus on that. Trust me, there is something in you that will show all your talent. By leaving HS you may miss out on what that could be.

Talk to your guidence counsellor at school, maybe they can help you too.

[Meeka]

Let's see...So massage therapy sounds good right now...your thinking "Wow I'm gonna make the big bucks and I wont even have to try!" But, will you be a massage therapist your whole life? Do you plan to ever go to college in the future?

 

I went in and got my GED last year (I am almost 18 right now) and really wish I had stayed in school. you still have the chance if you tried... I myself missed out on an education. Don't think of it so much as "oh my gosh I have <amount> credits until I graduate. I'll never make it" Are you learning anything in your classes? take a look at google and type "career ideas" even if you're not considering a career...it may not be the road to becoming an ASSASSIN (lol) or a drug dealer but itll give ya some ideas.

 

I'm not sure what else to tell you, other than that if you do drop out, I hope you get your GED. But you'll be missing out on a big load of things if you do quit highschool though.

[Hellfire]

Well either a masuse, or massage therapist (They're different things, one you can do for therapy on say someone that got into a car accident...which insurance companys would even pay you then, but the other is just for pleasure.)

 

I use to think I wanted to do something with computers, but I really dont want to :|.

 

The only thing I can think about wanting to do is being a masuse, or massage therapist.

 

And I wouldnt mind having a kid, but they are just pointless. I dont care if there is a piece of me left in this world after im dead, I dont care if I have a kid. I prefer not to. They're just another thing to spend money on :\...

 

 

I like video games, I would LOVE to help make games. Not the design part's or anything, but coming up with ideas, and explaining to all the designers how I want it to be carried out. If I were going to get into making video games, I would just become a tester and try and work my way in from there.

 

I dont want to go to college. That's kinda a given ^.^ seeing as how I am considering dropping out of highschool.

[Hellfire]

So what do you guys think of what I just posted? I dont really feel good right now either... :\

 

Kind of depressed.

[bab]

Hellfire,

You may be right that school is not for you, but give it some more time. If you drop out you may be closing doors that will never reopen. At 16 it is easy to imagine that you'd be happy with these doors closed, but as we age, our opinions change. You should never close doors until the last possible second. By the way, I'm not sure where you are located, but you should check out what it takes to be licensed.

 

Here are NY's laws:

 

New York State Consolidated Laws : Education

 

 

ARTICLE 155

MASSAGE THERAPY

Section 7800. Introduction.

7801. Definition of practice of massage therapy.

7802. Practice of massage therapy and use of title "masseur",

"masseuse" or "massage therapist" or the term "massage"

or "massage therapy".

7803. State board for massage therapy.

7804. Requirements for a professional license.

7805. Exempt persons.

7806. Limited permits.

 

S 7804. Requirements for a professional license. To qualify for a

license as a massage therapist, masseur or masseuse, an applicant shall

fulfill the following requirements:

(1) Application: file an application with the department;

(2) Education: have received an education, including high school grad-

uation and graduation from a school or institute of massage therapy with

a program registered by the department, or its substantial equivalent in

both subject matter and extent of training, provided that the program in

such school or institute shall consist of classroom instruction of a

total of not less than five hundred hours in subjects satisfactory to

the department;

(3) Examination: pass an examination satisfactory to the board and in

accordance with the commissioner`s regulations;

(4) Age: be at least eighteen years of age;

(5) Citizenship or immigration status: be a United States citizen or

an alien lawfully admitted for permanent residence in the United States;

(6) Character: be of good moral character as determined by the depart-

ment; and

(7) Fees: pay a fee of one hundred fifteen dollars to the department

for admission to a department conducted examination and for an initial

license, a fee of forty-five dollars for each reexamination, a fee of

fifty dollars for an initial license for persons not requiring admission

to a department conducted examination, and a fee of fifty dollars for

each triennial registration period.

[Hellfire]

Does that mean I can get a license with a GED? As it says on the page

 

 

(a) Is at least 18 years of age or has received a high school diploma or graduate equivalency diploma;

[ConfusedGal]

OK! DONTTTTT drop out of high school! EVERYONE I know who did that regretted it BIG time! Let me just remind you, its the ONLY education you will probably EVER get thats FREE! After that, you pretty much have to pay for everything yourself. DONT cut off your options.Maybe you want to be a massage therapist right now. What about 5 years down the line when it dawns on you that you just might want to go to college? Then what? You will go back with a bunch of 16 year olds to get your high school degree? Think about it. You need that degree my friend, just to keep those future options open, if not anything.

[Brittanyjean06]

I understand you wanting to drop out, because you might be failing the 10th grade...but people who drop out, and say there goin to go to school next year or whenever...usually don't...

 

 

I would stay, and do what your parents didn't do...you will be happy if you stayed and got your hs diploma- and try to pass...are you not on block sceduling?

[Hellfire]

http://www.santarosa.k12.fl.us/ltc/

 

Im just going to go to an adult school....

[RainyDayWoman]

nevermind. so not even worth my time.

[magda]

My advise is to sponge off of your parents for as long as you possibly can.

[Hellfire]

I figured I'd tell you guys what I am doing..

 

I was going to go to an alternate highschool, but that would of just took as long to graduate. I withdrew from my school (withdrew mind you, not dropped out), and i'm going to go to a GED prep classes at this place. To get myself up to GED standards...

 

 

In florida you're not really closing your options, seeing as how you dont have to have a HS diploma to go to most colleges around here. Just a GED, or HS diploma.

 

 

I doubt I would want to change five years down the line, going from a WELL paying job like masuse, or massage therapist, is kinda dumb.

 

 

Being a masuse, or massage therapist (not sure which one) you can set yourself up with the insurance company, and they will pay you ALOT.

 

One is for therapy, and the other is for pleasure...

[Devildog]

One option has always been military because you can have a lifelong career...they offer the training and pay and if you live on base I believe that's paid for, but at this time it's not always such a good option because they're shipping so many off to war.

 

Actually, a military career still requires a HS Diploma or GED. the Army is the only branch that will accept you without one, but they still require you to obtain one within a certain timeframe.

 

I hope you really do pursue atleast a GED, and hopefully right away. the deadbeat sponge HS dropout that my parent's daughter got mixed up with has been "working on getting his GED" for 5 years now. If you wait, most likely you won't ever get it.

 

Keep this in mind too, times are different. More and more people are going to college. An associates degree today is the equivalent of a HS diploma from when your parents were your age. Lacking atleast a HS education in this day and age is like having a 6th grade education from back then (think Jethro from the Beverly Hillbillies.) Without a HS education, your career options are manual labor, maybe truck driver.