Eli Davis Posted September 5 Share Posted September 5 I met this girl at work. When I left for vacation she was always asking when I was coming back. The first day back we worked together. She seemed nervous around me all day. At the end of her shift she slipped me a note with her snapchat and a smiley face. The very next day we were talking for hours. We talked every day for hours for a month straight. We were on facetime almost ever day. She was always flirting with me. I know she was always busy so I never really pushed her to do anything. She finally set a date she was available and we went out twice. She always cared what I thought on every thing, she complimented me a lot, she was texting me when it was inconvenient for her, she always made sure she looked her best in front of me, she wanted to show herself off to me when she was feeling pretty, and she was always playfully teasing me. One night she didn't reply to my texts all day. When she did reply she was begging me to respond. Over facetime, she told me I was giving her butterflies and making her blush. She hinted that she also like women. She told me she was bisexual. When I thought she was gay and said "I thought you liked me in a different way." She basically said stop being silly I like both making me think she was still interested in me. A week before I left for college, she ghosted me and I panicked and I didn't give her the space she needed and pushed her away. She then blocked me the next day. The day after that we were supposed to work together and she called off. I also found out she had a boyfriend. She never told me. It took me a week to really respect her space. Right before she blocked me, I told her I started to have feelings for her. At that point I didn't know she had a boyfriend. It's been a month and I have respected her space for the past 3 weeks. Are there any chances that she will unblock me so we can clarify things and so I can get the closure I need? Which reason is the bigger factor? Me telling her I have feelings for her or not giving her space. I'm at college right now and I feel helpless with this whole situation. I don't wanna wait around for nothing to happen. Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted September 5 Share Posted September 5 (edited) 14 minutes ago, Eli Davis said: I met this girl at work. When I left for vacation she was always asking when I was coming back. The first day back we worked together. She seemed nervous around me all day. At the end of her shift she slipped me a note with her snapchat and a smiley face. The very next day we were talking for hours. We talked every day for hours for a month straight. We were on facetime almost ever day. She was always flirting with me. I know she was always busy so I never really pushed her to do anything. She finally set a date she was available and we went out twice. She always cared what I thought on every thing, she complimented me a lot, she was texting me when it was inconvenient for her, she always made sure she looked her best in front of me, she wanted to show herself off to me when she was feeling pretty, and she was always playfully teasing me. One night she didn't reply to my texts all day. When she did reply she was begging me to respond. Over facetime, she told me I was giving her butterflies and making her blush. She hinted that she also like women. She told me she was bisexual. When I thought she was gay and said "I thought you liked me in a different way." She basically said stop being silly I like both making me think she was still interested in me. A week before I left for college, she ghosted me and I panicked and I didn't give her the space she needed and pushed her away. She then blocked me the next day. The day after that we were supposed to work together and she called off. I also found out she had a boyfriend. She never told me. It took me a week to really respect her space. Right before she blocked me, I told her I started to have feelings for her. At that point I didn't know she had a boyfriend. It's been a month and I have respected her space for the past 3 weeks. Are there any chances that she will unblock me so we can clarify things and so I can get the closure I need? Which reason is the bigger factor? Me telling her I have feelings for her or not giving her space. I'm at college right now and I feel helpless with this whole situation. I don't wanna wait around for nothing to happen. Was the boyfriend a recent thing? She certainly seemed interested from your description but maybe she was talking to other guys as well and he just took more of an initiative where you didn't. It sucks but sometimes that happens, you have to act when the opportunity is there. On the other hand if the boyfriend was there the whole time she may have been having problems with him and was having a flirt with you to boost her self-esteem. Again not nice for you but it happens. The fact you said you had feelings maybe made her realise it was getting too real that she could cheat on her bf so she panicked and blocked you. Either way there's not much to do from this point on. I know in these situations your sense of heartbreak makes it feel like you need to "clear the air" but trust me it won't make you feel any better and even if it did happen, you'd more likely feel worse and just have more and more questions. If there's any lesson maybe just take the initiative more next time in finding out if the girl you're seeing actually wants to date or is just using you for an attention-boost. It's sadly a pretty common situation with college age people, so just try not to waste your time. Edited September 5 by FredEire 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 5 Share Posted September 5 5 hours ago, Eli Davis said: Which reason is the bigger factor? The bigger factor is that she is not single and lied by omission about that. Please, forget this girl. She is bad news. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 5 Share Posted September 5 You didn't do anything wrong....she's a hot mess of a person that messed you up. She's cray cray. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FredEire Posted September 5 Share Posted September 5 1 hour ago, smackie9 said: You didn't do anything wrong....she's a hot mess of a person that messed you up. She's cray cray. Agree. If it makes you feel better you're a young guy. People (usually) get a bit more mature as you get further into your 20s so this girl might resolve her relationship problems by talking to her boyfriend for example rather than running to some other dude for validation. Until then you can save yourself hassle by learning to recognise this behaviour and then just cut it off and don't indulge it when it happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 5 Share Posted September 5 She blocked you so your messages won't pop up on her screen while she's with boyfriend. The girl played with you for 3 weeks, let it go. There is nothing to salvage. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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