latinprincess Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 I think that is what everyone says. "It just Happened". I Knew that it was wrong but something inside said it was right. My ex-bestfriends boyfriend cheated on her with me. It all started with he would come to me and talk to me about his problems that he was having with her. I mean I wasn't going to turn my back on him. And when he needed me the most. yeah i know that she was my best friend so was he. So really I knew both sides of the stories. Sometimes she would talk to me and tell me a total diffrent story. I would know that she would lie, cause i was on the other line. One day he started telling me that he would dream about me, and he would always wonder about me. If I would ever give him a change if they didn't make it. And he would tell me that he started caring about me more. You know just all the things that makes you feel good inside. And the feeling just gave in. One day I went to his sister house and thats when it happen. We had sex. We knew it was wrong but it felt so right. It felt so right that we did it again and again. I would go over while she was at work. Or I would go and pick him up. Or he would call me. I would get so excited. But until I found out that he had asked her to marry him. We messed around till that day. Why did he still do it? And he even told me that it didn't matter. And by this time i was already head over heels for him. Even to the point that I told him that my feeling were even stronger for him. I fell in Love with him. And till this day I still Love him. But I had to let him go, and stoped talking to my best friend so that he could be with the person he loved not the one that he thought he was falling for. Was I wrong to stop talking to the both of them? Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 Its probably best that you removed yourself from the equation. You said you know that she would lie sometimes about things, how do you know it wasn't him that was lying? He was lying anyway, to her, because he got with you. I'm not bashing you and I understand we all make mistakes, but basically he is still going to marry her, because you were a fling to him. He told you all the right things you wanted to hear to get you in to bed, it worked. Its probably best you have let it go and move on. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
beatlebob Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 He was never concerned about your feelings. You weren't concerned about your friend's feelings either. Trying to resume the friendship now would be putting up a facade for what you really want, some player who cheats on his fiance. What a guy. It's best for you to stay out of their crummy lives. Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 How could you do that to your bestfriend? To me that isn't too much a friend!! That is a no no !! I think he wasn't in love with you ,he was curious how it would be to sleep with you!!! I think he realized thats all it was that is why he chose to marry her!! I am glad you ended it before your friend found out !! Who is to say she won't find out? What will you do then? Link to post Share on other sites
Author latinprincess Posted January 3, 2006 Author Share Posted January 3, 2006 She Was My Bestfriend And Now We Have No Contact At All. Would Your Friend Lie To You About Being Happy And You Come To Find Out That She Wasn't. Because You Heard It For Your Self. Everytime That She Would Get Mad At Him He Would Call Me And To Talk She Call At The Same Time. Talking To Him Like He Was ****. He was So Good To Her. He Was The Kind Of Guy Any Girl Would Like To Be With She Took Him For Granted And Noone Deserves To Be Treated Like That. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 "Would your friend lie to you about being happy" I think she was trying to confinde in you as a friend. She probably told you she was happy, because maybe she didn't want you to worry. Some people say things like that when they are not really happy to try and cover up the fact the relationship is having problems. Then again its possible she felt SHE WAS HAPPY. It was obvious he wasn't, so what should he have done if he wasn't happy? He should have ended things with her, but he wasn't going to do that, why? So he can have the comfort of having her, plus you on the side. You played second fiddle to their relationship. He must not have been to unhappy or he wouldn't have married her or said he was going too. Once again, it sounds as if he used you. He put the bait out there for you to take by feeding you what you wanted to hear, or what HE wanted you to hear. Its over, and done with, no sense in trying to make sense of anything now. Jade Link to post Share on other sites
lilmoma1973 Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 I don't think you was too much a friend and i think you was jealous of what she had so moved in when he came to you!! You probably had a thing for him all along!! I just couldn't do that to a friend! My best friend slept with my b/f ,and i never forgave her ,and when her b/f came to me ,and told me he liked me ,and don't get me wrong he was hot!! I turned him away cause she was my friend even though she cheated on him with my man!! She deserved to be done wrong but she was my friend so i couldn't do it!! Guess it is that i have morals and values and when it comes to friends ,you don't do such things!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author latinprincess Posted January 3, 2006 Author Share Posted January 3, 2006 Don't Knock It Till You Try It. Everyone Has A Dark Side. And This Side Just Took The Best Of Me. You Don't Know How It Was Like To Always Hear Both Sides Of The Story. I Was Always Stuck In The Middle. When She Would Tell Me When They Would Fight But She Wouldn't Tell Me Everything Eventhough I Was Hearing On The Other Line. She Wouldn't Tell Me Anything. Other Than What I Heard. So When She Would Leave Out Things I Knew Why They Started Fighting. Eventhoug She Would Leave Out All The Other Things. And Tell You The Truth He Was Stupid For Staying With Her. And She Was With Him. How Can You Saythat I Don't Have Morals. I Have More Than You Can Count. You Have No Idea What It Was Like To Fall In Love With Someone You Knew You Couldn't Have. But All That Is In My Past. Now I Have Someone That Loves Me In Return. And I'll Never Ever Let Someting Like This Happen Again. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted January 3, 2006 Share Posted January 3, 2006 "I'll never let something like this happen again." Its good you have learned from it then. Best of luck to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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