fred123 Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 Before our first date we talked on the phone and texted frequently. She one day asked me for a favour and I said what's that's. She said if I could send/buy a vape to her house. She also asked me if I could drop her to the airport to her vacation at 3am. I genuinely think she was being serious. Why would this girl have the audacity to ask me this?! Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 Because there are all sorts of users out there. Did you drop her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 8 Author Share Posted September 8 3 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Because there are all sorts of users out there. Did you drop her? No obviously I have issues in seeing red flags 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 10 minutes ago, fred123 said: No obviously I have issues in seeing red flags That's more than a red flag Fred, that's a huge red neon light flashing. Drop her now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 8 Author Share Posted September 8 6 minutes ago, Gaeta said: That's more than a red flag Fred, that's a huge red neon light flashing. Drop her now. Haha neon light haha love that. Do u think there is a chance that she was joking tho??? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 Did you buy the vape and ship to her house? Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 8 Author Share Posted September 8 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Did you buy the vape and ship to her house? Nope. Think it was more like an uber eats delivery but no i refused Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 8 Author Share Posted September 8 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Did you buy the vape and ship to her house? Also are these sign of disrespect? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 OP, this is not the first woman who has treated you this way. There are older topics of yours where you recount spending loads of money on some barely known girls, having been talked to disrespectfully, being humiliated, and so on. Don’t you think that, rather than trying to figure out precise descriptions and motivations of those women’s actions, it would be a good time to start pondering why those things keep happening to you? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 8 Share Posted September 8 (edited) 1 hour ago, fred123 said: Why would this girl have the audacity to ask me this?! She was probably raised to be entitled. And now she finds there are enough guys who will bend over backwards to make her happy. Heck, it didn't stop you from dating her, so there's no reason for her to change something which works for her Edited September 8 by basil67 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 9 Author Share Posted September 9 33 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: OP, this is not the first woman who has treated you this way. There are older topics of yours where you recount spending loads of money on some barely known girls, having been talked to disrespectfully, being humiliated, and so on. Don’t you think that, rather than trying to figure out precise descriptions and motivations of those women’s actions, it would be a good time to start pondering why those things keep happening to you? I don't think it's fair blaming me for why she asks me to these things? Cmon And I am working very hard every day trying to change and work on myself. I am trying to learn with th3 help of you guys which I appreciate a lot about women's signs of interest and disinterest etc Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 9 Author Share Posted September 9 I always doubt myself and also I am scared to say things to the other person. I don't know if you are allowed to say stuff to someone when you have only been say on a couple of dates I really love to know how u guys handle certain situations you encounter 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 2 minutes ago, fred123 said: I don't know if you are allowed to say stuff to someone when you have only been say on a couple of dates You're certainly allowed to say "I don't think this is going to work. Good luck in your future dating" 2 minutes ago, fred123 said: I really love to know how u guys handle certain situations you encounter If someone I had never met asked me to get a vape in the middle of the night, they'd have to go without because my devices are on "do not disturb" after 10pm. That said I wouldn't date someone who vapes anyway, let alone buy one in the middle of the night. Regarding the 3am flight, I wouldn't even drive my husband at that time of night. This is what cabs and ubers are for Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 2 minutes ago, fred123 said: I don't know if you are allowed to say stuff to someone when you have only been say on a couple of dates No woman should ask you to pay something for herself if you are not in an official and established relationship. I am in a 2 year relationship and l would never call my bf to ask him to order me something. It's disrespectful, it's using people. You recognized that. Now you know it's a disrespect so you need to say bye, and you block her. Don't keep around women that show disrespect. You don't point it to them, you move on. A woman cannot disrespect a man and fall for him. Respect and love go hand in hand in a woman's brain. These women will never develop feelings for you. Drop them. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 1 hour ago, fred123 said: Do u think there is a chance that she was joking tho??? You should have literally replied to these requests, "Are you joking?" Is this someone you have been on one date with? It's unclear Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 16 minutes ago, fred123 said: I don't think it's fair blaming me for why she asks me to these things? Cmon And I am working very hard every day trying to change and work on myself. I am trying to learn with th3 help of you guys which I appreciate a lot about women's signs of interest and disinterest etc I’m not blaming you for what she asked. I’m trying to make you stop wasting your time on weird women who treat you like a doormat. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 1 hour ago, fred123 said: Nope. Think it was more like an uber eats delivery but no i refused What did she say when you refused? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 21 minutes ago, fred123 said: I always doubt myself and also I am scared to say things to the other person. This is your real problem. That’s what I was trying to tell you. Confident, strong women can’t stand men who’re scared of saying things. They like men who are fully sincere, decisive, open, and vulnerable. Keep working on yourself and become such a man first. Then you’ll be attracting the right kind of women instead of those strange ones that have no respect for you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 23 minutes ago, fred123 said: I really love to know how u guys handle certain situations you encounter If a woman I haven’t even begun to date asked me to drive her to the airport at 3am, I’d shrug my shoulders, text her “I’m sorry, I thought you were looking for a man to date, not for a taxi driver. I highly recommend this and that online app for affordable cab service”, and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 3 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: Confident, strong women can’t stand men who’re scared of saying things I used to lose respect for them. I know I have a strong personality and the right man for me is one who can be strong in return when needed. Sometimes I get irritated when I don't get my way, but it's better than being with a guy who's spineless. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 9 Author Share Posted September 9 12 minutes ago, Gaeta said: What did she say when you refused? She didnt say anything. I just said no I'm not that guy ask one of your guy friends. Question to everyone - if you are feeling at any point that the girl isn't into you or interested can you or should you tell them exactly that? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 Just now, fred123 said: Question to everyone - if you are feeling at any point that the girl isn't into you or interested can you or should you tell them exactly that? Sure, you can say something like, “Look, you seem great but I’m getting the feeling that you aren’t really into me. That’s fine, but I’d prefer to date a woman who is really excited about me and likes me for who I am. No offense, but I don’t think we’re compatible that way. Thank you for everything, and wish you success in dating and everything else”. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 10 minutes ago, fred123 said: Question to everyone - if you are feeling at any point that the girl isn't into you or interested can you or should you tell them exactly that? Personally if l feel someone isn't into me l drop them. If he gives me half his attention or takes days to get back to me l blocked them and moved to next. You don't ask people for their attention and interest. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author fred123 Posted September 9 Author Share Posted September 9 2 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Personally if l feel someone isn't into me l drop them. If he gives me half his attention or takes days to get back to me l blocked them and moved to next. You don't ask people for their attention and interest. Does that also apply to physical affection. If you feel like that they are not physically affectionate in any way they aren't interested Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 9 Share Posted September 9 3 minutes ago, fred123 said: Does that also apply to physical affection. If you feel like that they are not physically affectionate in any way they aren't interested Of course but that depends on many variables. Did you meet this woman? Link to post Share on other sites
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