Cheated once... wonder if it will happen agian???

[MissD213]

Ok, here is my story as short as possible.

 

When I was in 11th grade I met a boy who went to a 1-yr tech school near me. We hit it off great, and spent pretty much all our free time together when we weren't in school or at work. But by the end of junior year, he was finished with school and moved back home..1 1/2 hours away from me. We never had any problems at all, not one fight and were very comfortable around one-another. Even though he lived 1 1/2 hours away I'd drive to visit him EVERY weekend.

 

WELL, a year into the relationship we were on the phone one night and I randomlly decided to pop the question "Did you ever cheat on me?" Hoping to hear no, of course I heard the "yes." He told me that a WEEK after he moved back home he was at a party drunk of course and ended up sleeping with a girl. He apologized many many times and his reasoning for it was because I still had another year of high school and figured our relationship would fail because I was young, still in high school..while he was starting a full time job at a big corporation. He ended up driving down to see me the following day because I was very upset over it and to apologize. Apparently, his close friends knew about it and he told me he felt horrible over it.

 

I'm now in college and we're still together. After all this, still the only reason we ever may fight (which isn't that often anymore) is because of what he did. He's been showing he's changing for me by not going out to parties and getting drunk to the point of doing something like that, spending basically all his free time with me on the weekends, not hanging out with his buddies every night like he would and calling me to let me know what he's up to. I'm in love with this kid and he feels the same. So many times he's told me he'll never do it again, you know the story. Now this happened almost 2 years ago but it's so hard to get out of your head when you're in love with the person.

 

All i really want is someone elses perspective of this situation, other than a friends. So to the reader, does he sound honest and trustworthy? AND what are some ways to try and get it out of your head??? Thanks

[michelangelo]

And maybe you two can have a happy life together.

 

You are not married yet. Yeah, he screwed up big time.

 

But you can watch his behavior all the time you are finishing up school. He did fess up and apologize, right?

 

Do not move in with him while in school, do not get pregnant,a dn don't get married.

 

If this love is to last, test it with this time now while you focus on getting your degree.

 

With him or without him you need it for your own security.

 

Not sure if that is the qnswer you were seeking.

[Citizen Erased]

The one thing which you have to give this guy credit for is that he fessed up when you only had to ask him. So many people lie and use deceit until they are caught.

 

Do you really think that you can trust him wholeheartedly? If you answered yes or no then you have your answer as to whethr you should continue a relationship with him. Overall, he seems like a decent enough guy, despite the cheating. It was one slip up. It is up to you to decide if the mistake will ever happen again

[oss91]

People make mistakes. Unfortunately, many people don't learn from their mistakes and go on to make the same mistake again. It sounds as though he's being pretty honest when he says he won't do it again. I know his situation because I have done it. It's not something I ever want to do again because that's not the man I want to be. It sounds like he pretty much feels the same way. The trust has been damaged, and the only thing that can repair the trust are his actions over time. I truly believe that one mistake, one slip-up can be forgiven. Seems to me like he's trying to prove that to you through his changing behavior.