Bellabee10 Posted Monday at 01:19 AM Share Posted Monday at 01:19 AM He was showing me photos on his phone and when he clicked out, it showed the Snapchat app. I know typically it is used by a younger crowd. We are both in our 40s and have kids from our previous marriages and our kids use the app to communicate with their friends and to each other. I know my son in particular, always talks with my BF’s son on there. His kids are young teenager and his daughter uses it heavily as well. I’ve never had the app so I don’t know anything g about it other than the negative that I hear, how a lot of people use it to be sneaky, cheat, etc. My BF and I have been together 6 years and he’s never given me the reason to ever think he would do anything like that. Like I said, our kids are friends, we have family get togethers, he treats me very well and I love him tremendously. He mentioned while back about Snapchat, that he’s worried about his kids using it, etc and wanted to know what was going on with it. I don’t recall him ever mentioning he would download it. So I just saw the app this weekend and it was bothering me, so the following day, I asked him if he has Snapchat because of the kids. He didn’t look worried or “caught”, was just a straight look and said “yes, absolutely. I can see their location when they’re not with me and at their mom’s”. He also mentioned that his daughter’s boyfriend is on his Snapchat as well and said he wants it just in case. Daughter only started dating this boy a few weeks ago and is her first boyfriend so my boyfriend said he added him. He even assured me he doesn’t use it as it is for a young crowd and any grown adult using it is questionable. He said that he told his daughter he wasn’t meaning to embarrass her and it was being used by him just as a precaution, etc. I told him iPhones have a feature where they can share a location, and showed him how I can see my son’s location in real time. He said he wasn’t familiar with that. He just switched to an iPhone from an Android. I’d like to believe this is a valid reason but wanted to get some thoughts on whether or not this would still sound suspicious. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted Monday at 01:36 AM Share Posted Monday at 01:36 AM I’m confused… What exactly are you suspicious of? So he has that app, for whatever reason. It’s just an app for chatting, isn’t it? It’s not like he installed Tinder and has an active account on it and is flirting with the women using it. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted Monday at 01:53 AM Share Posted Monday at 01:53 AM It makes perfect sense to download an app that your kids are using to see how it works. How can we begin to look after our kids when we don't know about the stuff they are using? Given he's never given you a reason to mistrust him, why are you mistrusting him over this? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bellabee10 Posted Monday at 01:54 AM Author Share Posted Monday at 01:54 AM 15 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: I’m confused… What exactly are you suspicious of? So he has that app, for whatever reason. It’s just an app for chatting, isn’t it? It’s not like he installed Tinder and has an active account on it and is flirting with the women using it. I think it’s because of what Snapchat has been known for, with people using it so everything that’s read or seen is erased with no trace of anything. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted Monday at 01:57 AM Share Posted Monday at 01:57 AM Just now, Bellabee10 said: I think it’s because of what Snapchat has been known for, with people using it so everything that’s read or seen is erased with no trace of anything. So what? You can do that with other chatting apps as well. I still don’t see any connection whatsoever with anything that might arouse suspicions. If he bought a baseball bat, would you suspect that he might kill someone with it, because it has been known for its occasional use as a weapon? 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted Monday at 02:15 AM Share Posted Monday at 02:15 AM Wow. You're really reaching. I can't help but think that you must be quite unhappy in this relationship. This is not the first time you've gone rather far afield because of unfounded suspicions or feelings of neglect. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted Monday at 04:41 AM Share Posted Monday at 04:41 AM He's a responsible parent keeping an eye on what his kids are engaging in. If only all parents watched as closely . Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted Tuesday at 05:39 AM Share Posted Tuesday at 05:39 AM On 9/16/2024 at 3:54 AM, Bellabee10 said: I think it’s because of what Snapchat has been known for, with people using it so everything that’s read or seen is erased with no trace of anything You don't trust this man, really. If you did, this wouldn't even register with you as something to be suspicious of. Why are you questioning his reason? My guess is thay you were already feeling insecure in the relationship for some reason so you're seeing this through the same filter. So, what's really going on between you? Have you felt hm drifting away recently? Are you feeling unsure about him for other reasons? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted Tuesday at 01:30 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 01:30 PM 7 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: So, what's really going on between you? Have you felt hm drifting away recently? Are you feeling unsure about him for other reasons? Read her post history. There are several threads about things her bf has done that have triggered her insecurities. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted 19 hours ago Share Posted 19 hours ago 16 hours ago, introverted1 said: Read her post history. There are several threads about things her bf has done that have triggered her insecurities. All the more reason to stop lying to herself that this relationship is working, and all the more reason to get out. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted 13 hours ago Share Posted 13 hours ago Why do you not trust your partner’s response? Why are you polling people on the internet to know whether you should trust your boyfriend? If you don’t trust the man, you need to consider whether this is the relationship for you. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted 13 hours ago Share Posted 13 hours ago On 9/15/2024 at 8:54 PM, Bellabee10 said: I think it’s because of what Snapchat has been known for, with people using it so everything that’s read or seen is erased with no trace of anything. It appeals to some people for that reason, yes. If your boyfriend is trustworthy, it shouldn’t matter what platform he is using online. The issue is not the app, the issues here is that you don’t trust your boyfriend. If he has given you good reason not to trust him, then I would reconsider the relationship. You shouldn’t need to live with this kind of insecurity and conflict in your life. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jasonblackheart01 Posted 13 hours ago Share Posted 13 hours ago You need to trust your partner. You been together for years, suspicions can lead to unnecessary fights without evidence. If in case he's really been cheating on you, that's on him. He wasted years of trust just for a simple passion which means he is not worth the effort. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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