manny1 Posted September 20 Share Posted September 20 Hi all, I've been dating a woman and had 4 dates. I'm still not sure how I feel about her as it normally takes me time to let my guard down but she really likes me. I have noticed she will have a drink or two at each dateWe kissed on our 3rd date at which time she said she really wanted sex and grabbed my crotch. She then mentioned after that she's really happy to have met me and misses me. This made me a bit uncomfortable as it seems like things going bit fast for me. I am considering breaking things off as I feel she wants things to progress at a quicker rate than I am comfortable. Any advice would be great, thanks. Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 21 Share Posted September 21 (edited) But you can tell whether you’re attracted to her physically, right? If you are, why break things off? Just ask her to slow down. If you don’t like her that much and don’t feel a strong attraction, of course you should break things off. But then it has nothing to do with her speed of progressing. I feel that you don’t like her that much if you still can’t decide where you stand after 4 dates, but maybe I’m wrong. Personally, if I’m attracted to a woman, I’d know it much sooner than after 4 dates, and then there is no such thing for me as “too fast” in terms of physical intimacy. But that might be just me. Edited September 21 by Gebidozo Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted September 21 Share Posted September 21 (edited) You have been on four dates and she is grabbing your crotch and practically begging you for sex? Do you like sex? I'd get it if you have already been laid by her and are iffy about making this a regular thing because she might want to turn it into a relationship. But she right now is pretty much just asking for sex. Edited September 21 by Sony12 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 21 Share Posted September 21 (edited) I'm noticing you have nothing positive, at all, to say about her after 4 dates, that means you don't like her. We're not talking feelings yet, it's just 4 dates. You should not have feelings but you should know if you like her personality, her conversation, her looks. Edited September 21 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted September 21 Share Posted September 21 Yes by date four most people are wanting sex. If you still are unsure about sex by the time you have gone on four dates you do need to question if you are attracted to to them in general. From her point of view she may be wondering if you even like girls at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted September 21 Share Posted September 21 It doesn't matter if she likes you, it sounds like you don't particularly like her. So stop wasting her time and don't let this go any further. Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted September 21 Share Posted September 21 21 hours ago, manny1 said: We kissed on our 3rd date at which time she said she really wanted sex and grabbed my crotch. What did you say to her when she did that? How did she respond to what you said? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 22 Share Posted September 22 On 9/20/2024 at 4:55 PM, manny1 said: Any advice would be great, thanks. Tell her that she is moving too fast, and you would prefer to take things slower… Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted September 23 Share Posted September 23 Break things off because all this she is doing should be turning you on not off...lets face it, you ain't into her. Link to post Share on other sites
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