Recently separated after 28 years and wasn't expecting it at all

[Sting-ray5]

I am gonna have access to household money. She was a a lot of money in her 401k that she is gonna give me for a house. It’s enough to pay at least half of a very nice house. She said she wants the kids and I to be comfortable and not have to worry about living in a bad neighborhood. She knows she’s gonna get whacked financially for taking out 401k money early but she doesn’t care. Even though she broke my heart at least she’s not being a nasty vindictive witch. 

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7 hours ago, Sting-ray5 said:

I am gonna have access to household money. She was a a lot of money in her 401k that she is gonna give me for a house. It’s enough to pay at least half of a very nice house. She said she wants the kids and I to be comfortable and not have to worry about living in a bad neighborhood. She knows she’s gonna get whacked financially for taking out 401k money early but she doesn’t care. Even though she broke my heart at least she’s not being a nasty vindictive witch. 

Yeah, my ex said she only wanted her car and her belongings.  She took that plus 100K and left me with a ton of bills.  Do not trust her at this point and get prepared.  It is very, very rare that divorces turn out civil.