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Guy I dated reached out after 10 years? What gives?


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WildOrchid

Ten years ago, I met a guy at a pub. We hit it off and went on two dates. But we never even kissed. I remember liking him at the time and after our date I would text him but he would never initiate contact. The last thing he said was "I'll call you." He never did and he ghosted me. [We were both in our 20s at the time.]

Fast forward to the other day, I received a a text message from an unfamiliar number. It said it was the guy and reminded me that in his words we hung out a few times. He said he was going through his phone and decided to reach out to old contacts to see how they were doing."  It had been a minute so I googled the the number and his name and picture came up - I then remembered who the guy was. He is now working in real estate.  I thought the message was odd so I asked if this was at a pub in a city I used to live in. He responded by saying yes it was ____ pub and he was with his two friends and it was so long ago that I may not remember. 

He told me that he's married with two kids and is working remote and he's basically at home all the time. I asked him what made him reach out and he said he was going through his phone and wanted to say hi to people from the past.

The whole thing is odd to me. I'm wondering if he's trying to yield potential clients for his business? Otherwise, it seems strange to reach out to someone after so long.  We aren't exes as we only went on two dates and we haven't kept in touch. But why do you think this guy reached out to me?

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Who knows. I also think it’s strange. My guess would be he’s bored with his life for whatever reason, maybe something isn’t right in his marriage and he is looking for excitement of whatever kind. 

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He’s bored at home and he’s looking for some excitement on the side.  
 

 

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ExpatInItaly

Sounds very shady of him. 

He's likely bored in his marrige and seeing who from his past will take the bait. I wouldn't respond any further.

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On 9/22/2024 at 1:00 AM, ExpatInItaly said:

Sounds very shady of him. 

He's likely bored in his marrige and seeing who from his past will take the bait. I wouldn't respond any further.

It does. I didn't respond again and blocked his number.

But I do think it's interesting that no one thinks it could be career related -- like trying to get contacts for his business.

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1 hour ago, WildOrchid said:

... I do think it's interesting that no one thinks it could be career related -- like trying to get contacts for his business.

Sure, that's possible. Is he local to you?

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