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1 hour ago, Angevil said:

he said it's all here and he pointed his finger on his heart' hahaha that was unexpected

Why, that was completely expected. Sleazy, shameless cheaters and manipulators always talk like that to use young, naive, gullible, inexperienced, silly girls for their pleasure and then cast them away like broken toys when they’re done with them.

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On 9/24/2024 at 9:12 AM, Angevil said:

i undrestand ur pov but i don't know why would him do that while he is married recently less than 2 weeks 

For exactly the same reason as you're all hot for this guy and not prioritising your boyfriend: pure selfishness

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45 minutes ago, Angevil said:

Sorry but i wasn't prepared mentally to hear this.... 

Yet you were mentally prepared to cheat on your boyfriend with a man who just got married?

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We kissed and i was drank I'll never do it when im sober, i don't consider that as cheating he started to kiss me first and i was weak 

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2 minutes ago, Angevil said:

We kissed and i was drank I'll never do it when im sober, i don't consider that as cheating he started to kiss me first and i was weak 

If you don’t consider this cheating, then I agree with @Gaeta, please break up with your boyfriend.

He should have a chance to find a girl who doesn’t cheat on him, or at least a girl who is honest enough to admit it and willing to make amends.

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7 minutes ago, Angevil said:

We kissed and i was drank I'll never do it when im sober, i don't consider that as cheating he started to kiss me first and i was weak 

So if someone persuades you to drive a car when you're drunk and you kill someone, you expect to get a 'not guilty' verdict?

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No ofc, im not blaming alcohol... just im lost i took days off from my work (so i can make up my mind). It may seem very easy to you but to me it's not, last night i saw my boyfriend and i didn't want to look at him in the eyes

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53 minutes ago, Angevil said:

No ofc, im not blaming alcohol... just im lost i took days off from my work (so i can make up my mind). It may seem very easy to you but to me it's not, last night i saw my boyfriend and i didn't want to look at him in the eyes

I was responding to the post where you blamed alcohol

It's good that you can't look your boyfriend in the eyes...it will help you make the right decision

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Yes i understand as i said before im confused but staying away from him is making me feel bad, but i feel desperate like i can't do s***, i want to say that he used me but this makes me sad and i wanna do smthg 

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2 hours ago, Angevil said:

Yes i understand as i said before im confused but staying away from him is making me feel bad, but i feel desperate like i can't do s***, i want to say that he used me but this makes me sad and i wanna do smthg 

Angevil do you have family? a good friend? someone you can call?

It's not normal to be distressed to the point of not going to work. People go through divorces without missing work, this guy is a nobody in your life and here you are destroyed as if this was a long term partner. 

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I took 4 days off ´ yes i do have a family but our relationship not that that close and i leave with a friend and she is a good friend but she not the type that can undress what im going through no one can feel that. I'm stressed cause we lived a really good feeling that night and then he is just okay with that, he is now between his wife's arms. i can't get over it simply 

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On 9/24/2024 at 3:45 AM, Angevil said:

hi, im new here i just want to share with you guys a short story, so im dating someone and now it's been 1 year we are dating i really love him he is kind gentle he is a coach actually, i met him first at the gym after that we hung out a lot after that, so the main issue is before knowing him i had a crush on my supervisor, he told me that he like me too cause we went out and we talked a lot, we had a lot of memories, we kissed. Recently he got married and he invited me and i didn't go, After his marriage we met and we talked he told me that he misses me and my place was always on his heart, but i have a bf and he is married this is wrong i told myself but i was drunk we kissed after that talk and i felt really heaven hugging him and kissing him, now im feeling disparate, im feeling sorry for her and for myself cause my bf is such an angel and i love him, the other man i feel deep connection with him its really hard  

Stop lying to yourself, it doesn't matter if he is your supervisor. Then what ? 
You should go for that person who is honest with you. Not for that person that is just playing for pleasure, and you are presenting yourself as a toy.

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5 hours ago, Angevil said:

she is a good friend but she not the type that can undress what im going through no one can feel that.

You won't know that until you tell her about it.

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2 hours ago, Angevil said:

Yea i told her, and she attacked me with words like i felt so bad 

And you should feel bad. 

If a friend of mine came to me with this story I would start by giving them some deserved tough love! then I'd go in solution/support mode. 

So, what's the solution for your problem Angevil?

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All decisions have consequences. 

This married man is trying to sell you a load of manure… if you decide to buy what he is selling, you will deal with the consequence of that decision. It really is as simple as that. 

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On 9/24/2024 at 6:15 PM, Angevil said:

Probably yes, the problem i can't accept that 

Some lessons need to be learned the hard way… 

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Since that night he didn't reach out; he confessed his love for me; he is not playing with my feelings, and he disappeared. 

 

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2 minutes ago, Angevil said:

he is not playing with my feelings

Explain your logic behind this. He expressed his love and disappeared. If it's not playing with your feelings what is it?

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no i asked him and that was his answer, im not playing with ur feelings i really dont know what the f he is doing to me , why ??? i've been questioning myself a lot 

 

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14 minutes ago, Angevil said:

Since that night he didn't reach out; he confessed his love for me; he is not playing with my feelings, and he disappeared. 

 

He’s playing with your feelings. 

A married man who tells a woman that is not his wife that he is in love with her - and then disappears from contact is absolutely playing with your feelings. 

You need to remove the word “love” from your vocabulary here. If he “loved” his wife, he wouldn’t be fooling around with you… and if he “loved” you, he wouldn’t have married another woman. 

 

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31 minutes ago, Angevil said:

im not playing with ur feelings i really dont know what the f he is doing to me , why ??? i've been questioning myself a lot 

His words say he's not playing with you but his actions are saying he's playing with you.  He does this because he's flattered by having a woman hang to his every word just for the heck of it. He is a very selfish person, he has no consideration what so ever for other people's feelings, including yours and his wife. He's like a parasite feeding off the suffering of women. This man has no integrity and no moral, no respect for himself or women.

 

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48 minutes ago, Angevil said:

Since that night he didn't reach out; he confessed his love for me; he is not playing with my feelings, and he disappeared. 

 

Ok, so let’s assume, for the sake of argument, that he isn’t playing with your feelings. He has regretted his immoral actions, decided to leave you alone and be faithful to his wife.

In which case, you must forget about him and focus on either mending your relationship with your BF or leaving him, since you have realized now that you don’t love him that much.

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