Is it wrong to date 'attractive' ladies only?

[RandallHare]

14 hours ago, Els said:

So are you single or are you exclusively dating this woman?

If you somehow managed to get into an exclusive relationship between Friday and today, and this is how you feel about her, then you should obviously let her go. It's not going to turn out well if you already feel lukewarm about her during the honeymoon phase, and she deserves a partner who loves her for who she is.

Not dating "exclusively." Still weighing my options.

[RandallHare]

9 hours ago, Leihla_B said:

Hah! Okay, so that's quite a trollicious pivot from .002 percent racial and physical criteria to smart enough.

Hey, she's a preschool teacher, and you can teach the kid math and civics from kindergarten up. Whatever. EnjOy!

There's another lady I kind of connect better emotionally and intellectually. She's an artist with statistics degree in the best university in the nation. It's just that she's far and I'm not sure if I will be attracted to her in person.

[basil67]

5 minutes ago, RandallHare said:

I think everybody knows that Town XXX is next to City YYY. I can't believe she still doesn't know such a basic information.

As for arithmetic, I'm gonna ditch that from now on coz my sister who is a doctor still thinks that December is 3 months away. Okay then. I've always thought you should know that by grade school because it's pretty simple. @_@ 

 I live in Australia and if Town XXX and City XXX are somewhere in the Philippines, I wouldn't know their proximity either, so clearly not EVERYBODY knows the answer.  Making broad generalisations without context to the question to prove an argument is not an intelligent way to make a point.   I would say that knowing where towns and cities are depends on lived experience in that area.  

In what ways is your girlfriend unable to manage her life because her math isn't good enough?   

 

 

[RandallHare]

I just didn't mention the names of the town and city for confidential reasons. But, yeah, I thought she should know by now because we live here. If you live in Australia, I would understand why you don't know at all.

[Alpacalia]

9 hours ago, RandallHare said:

I think everybody knows that Town XXX is next to City YYY. I can't believe she still doesn't know such a basic information.

As for arithmetic, I'm gonna ditch that from now on coz my sister who is a doctor still thinks that December is 3 months away. Okay then. I've always thought you should know that by grade school because it's pretty simple. @_@ 

You're already looking down on her and you do not want to be in a relationship where you think you are superior to your her. If you cannot respect her intelligence, it may be time to move on. I mean, you're being a tad bit too harsh. Who cares if she doesn't know what municipalities are next to what cities and  she is a nursery teacher for crying outloud.

Do you know how hard it is too make lesson plans, prepare activities, handle those little kids, deal with the parents, 8a-4p 5x a week? Teaching nursery kids is A LOT OF WORK.

[basil67]

5 hours ago, Alpacalia said:

Do you know how hard it is too make lesson plans, prepare activities, handle those little kids, deal with the parents, 8a-4p 5x a week? Teaching nursery kids is A LOT OF WORK.

And teaching nursery likely involves having a whole lot of skills which you don't have

[riversidemf]

I tend to only go for tall guys so I can't judge you.

[Els]

On 10/2/2024 at 4:30 PM, RandallHare said:

There's another lady I kind of connect better emotionally and intellectually. She's an artist with statistics degree in the best university in the nation. It's just that she's far and I'm not sure if I will be attracted to her in person.

Wait, so now you're considering a person you've never even MET just because her degree is from "the best university in the nation"...? And how do you know that she's attracted to you?

I wouldn't normally ask this, but considering all of the bizarre revelations that have happened throughout this thread, I think it's best to clarify instead of assuming. Umm, so, the nursery teacher...  you have gone out on multiple actual dates with her in person, and she has expressed her own interest in you, yes? We're not just talking about women on a list whom you are "weighing as options" but have never gone out on a date with?

Anyway. I wish you the best of luck in your relationship and dating life, mate. You're gonna need it.

Edited October 3 by Els

[Foxhall]

On 10/1/2024 at 12:07 PM, RandallHare said:

I'm actually currently dating a woman who fits my standards physically. The problem is ~ she doesn't seem to be smart enough for my standards. There's no problem that she is a Nursery teacher. It's just that there are certain things that she ought to know by now... like the fact that a certain municipality is located next to a particular city... or the simple things like arithmetic that you ought to know as a child...

Its going to be hard to fit every criteria you want,

I think I agree with you on the physical attractiveness one- if you dont find someone physically attractive you will lose interest soon enough, unless you can just remain with someone for companionship and satisfy your sexual desires playing away or whatever,

what you describe there is what I would actually deem a perfect fit but we all have different things that are attractive to us I guess.

 

[Gebidozo]

5 hours ago, Foxhall said:

I think I agree with you on the physical attractiveness

The problem is that the OP appears to equate the personal, subjective experience of mutual physical attraction with some narrow, superficial, and artificial aesthetic parameters.

Of course we should only date those we’re physically attracted to. But to seriously believe that such attraction can only occur with a person who fully corresponds to a certain type or “ideal of beauty” means not knowing what true attraction is.