Am I wrong to question if I married the wrong person?

[Bronte28]

After 4 months of marriage I found out my husband was cheating on me with a female at his work. At the time I was 2.5 months pregnant. Our relationship was relatively short. My child is now one and my husband has decided he does not want to be a full time dad anymore and has kicked my daughter and I out of the house. Our relationship was relatively short (almost 5 years). During the relationship I often questioned if he was the one for me. I copped verbal & emotional abuse regularly but I felt I couldn’t leave. before I met my husband I had a close relationship with an old colleague (known him for almost 9 years). We had a strong friendship and were occasionally intimate. I always wanted to pursue a relationship with him but we were both extremely shy to make the first move and never put a label on it. We were also separated by distance. Am I wrong to think I married the wrong person. Whenever my husband would abuse me I would think of my friend and know how he never treated me poorly or would ever say the things my husband would call me. I didn’t keep the friendship going whilst I was with my husband out of respect but I missed our friendship deeply. We had so much in common. He is still single now. I have recently had contact with him in relation to work and it’s like old times again with him bringing up happy old memories. I think he knows I’m separated but I don’t know how to bring up the subject. I don’t want him to feel uncomfortable talking to me. Am I wrong in believing I married the wrong person? Dont get me wrong I was completely in love with my husband and never through my we would separate but I am learning that he wasn’t the person I thought he was. 

Edited September 27 by Bronte28

[Gebidozo]

Of course you married the wrong person.

OP, I understand that the cheating might have come as a surprise, but you said yourself:

 

22 minutes ago, Bronte28 said:

During the relationship I often questioned if he was the one for me. I copped verbal & emotional abuse regularly but I felt I couldn’t leave.

You should have never married this abuser. And he turned out to be a cheater as well.

What’s done is done. Please get a divorce ASAP and consider yourself blessed that you’re no longer with this man and are free to find your happiness.

[Leihla_B]

An abuser is never the 'right' person.

Head high, and move forward.