do You Think This Woman Is Interested in Me?

[Leihla_B]

17 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

Thank you! I’ll think about what you said here, okay? Maybe you’re right😊

Big thank you, G. That means a lot from you because I respect you. I can appreciate that you picked up somewhere that any kind of encouragement of the strengths that a suffering person can recognize in themselves might somehow be bad for them... I just don't understand how or why. 

I join your belief that humility tempers an ego that is self-centered and over-inflated. It's also a pathway to empathy and sympathy for others. That's exactly why humility can recognize the difference between a boastful ego that tramples the feelings of others versus an injured ego that struggles in privacy to reach for some healthy building blocks of self-esteem.

If we can allow for people to reach for those in front of us, we can also recognize that their pendulum may need to swing a bit overboard before they can check it. But if we can avoid a knee-jerk reaction to knock that down before they can learn anything, we've helped them from a place of humility, ourselves.

[Gebidozo]

8 hours ago, Leihla_B said:

I can appreciate that you picked up somewhere that any kind of encouragement of the strengths that a suffering person can recognize in themselves might somehow be bad for them... I just don't understand how or why. 

Because I used to be a really terrible person and I probably caused every single breakup I ever had. But when I suffered because of that, people in my life, relatives and friends, never said anything harsh to me, they just consoled me. They told me I was a good guy, and that only made the suffering worse, because if I were such a good guy, why did that girl break up with me?..

What I needed was to be hit on my head. Someone to tell me straight, “You’re acting like an entitled, selfish, deluded jerk. You need help. Become a better person first, then start dreaming of love. It’s not them, it’s you”.

[GuitarGuy7]

Yeah I don’t think this woman is too interested. 
 

So we’re both apart of a meetup group. I see that she RSVPd to another event. Well if she’s so busy that she has to take care of her sister, then why would she RSVP to another event? 
 

I’ll wait for her to reach out to me in November (which she probably won’t) but in the meantime, I’m seriously considering going to The Philippines to meet a woman. 

[GuitarGuy7]

If I happen to run into her within the next week or two, I’ll be like “Oh you must be Cara’s twin sister Sara since Cara told me she was too busy taking care of her sister”

looooool

 

[S2B]

Put it back on her to make the effort when she has time.

she needs to make the effort now - if she has any idea of seeing you in November.

in the meantime - date other gals. She seems lukewarm.