riversidemf Posted September 29 Share Posted September 29 Some context. This guy I'm interested in asked me if I wanted to ride his 4 wheeler with him and I declined because I'm scared of the speed. In response he said " you won't get hurt around me". I know when you like someone you tend see things more than they actually are. This also happened in text so I don't know the tone. Also, he rides with his boys too so I'm not special in that way. " you won't get hurt around me "made my heart drop. Am I being ridiculous? And need to get my head out of the clouds? Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted September 29 Share Posted September 29 Sounds like a sweet and flirty comment on his end. What did you say back to him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted September 29 Author Share Posted September 29 Just now, Alpacalia said: Sounds like a sweet and flirty comment on his end. What did you say back to him? After he said that I wouldn't get hurt around him. He asked me why I thought that he was reckless. I told him because that's what I've seen from his actions. And then he said it's like I watch him like he's a wild animal or something. And I told him I don't watch in bad judgmentmental way. And then he asked me " in what way then"? And of course I couldn't tell him my real feelings and didn't respond. The text convo went along those lines. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted September 29 Author Share Posted September 29 I low key thought he was trying to bait me into telling him my feelings for him when he asked "in what way then"? Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted September 30 Author Share Posted September 30 I sat on it. I think he was just implying that he doesn't think I'd get hurt around him because he's a good driver. 😑 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 30 Share Posted September 30 He was flirting. You think he's wreckless. Are you attracted to bad boys? A real adult man does not play text games to know if a woman likes him. He comes forward with a date invitation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted September 30 Author Share Posted September 30 42 minutes ago, Gaeta said: He was flirting. You think he's wreckless. Are you attracted to bad boys? A real adult man does not play text games to know if a woman likes him. He comes forward with a date invitation. He has never asked me out on a date. For a quick second, I thought him asking if I wanted to go for a ride was him wanting one on one time with me, but then I realized he does ask his boys too. At a recent party he asked me if I wanted to leave the party and go smoke, he didn't invite anyone else to come along, again I took that as him wanting one on one time with me. I can't help but think that I'm doing alot of wishful thinking with him. Besides in person, I always initiate contact, which is rare. But in person, he comes to me and tends to want to be around me, that's factual. He has told me as soon as I leave a party the party dies out. So he may just enjoy my engery, nothing more. He's wreckless because he's an adrenaline junkie, not sure if he's a bad boy. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 30 Share Posted September 30 Yes, it's something a guy says when he's attracted to her. What are you doing to show interest in return? Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted September 30 Author Share Posted September 30 7 hours ago, basil67 said: Yes, it's something a guy says when he's attracted to her. What are you doing to show interest in return? I think I made it clear one night when I got really touchy feely with him but he didn't reciprocate the touching so I never shown interest again. Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted September 30 Share Posted September 30 (edited) 12 hours ago, riversidemf said: He has never asked me out on a date. Hold out for this. Don't go against your own instincts just to 'hang out' like one of the boys. His invitation doesn't make him a villain, but it's not an activity you're wild about. No amount of bravado can prevent someone else from getting hurt when doing something potentially dangerous, especially when they're only doing it to please someone else. Hang in there, and my fingers are crossed for you getting a nice date. Edited September 30 by Leihla_B 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 30 Share Posted September 30 I guess I would say he's being flirty but the same thing happened to me when I attended my aunt's funeral. She was buried 40 miles from the church where the funeral was held and I sat in the front seat with the limo driver because the back was full. It was raining hard and I was noticeably uncomfortable as I always am when driving in the rain. He said "Are you nervous?" I told him "yes I get scared driving in the rain." He said "As long as you are with me, I'm not going to let anything happen to you." I know he wasn't flirting, I'm a married woman. But, in your situation he very well could have been flirting and his question, "in what way then?" Could have been him baiting your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted October 9 Author Share Posted October 9 I'm so happy. He FINALLY initiated text conversation. I think we're flirting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted October 9 Author Share Posted October 9 On 9/30/2024 at 4:45 PM, stillafool said: I guess I would say he's being flirty but the same thing happened to me when I attended my aunt's funeral. She was buried 40 miles from the church where the funeral was held and I sat in the front seat with the limo driver because the back was full. It was raining hard and I was noticeably uncomfortable as I always am when driving in the rain. He said "Are you nervous?" I told him "yes I get scared driving in the rain." He said "As long as you are with me, I'm not going to let anything happen to you." I know he wasn't flirting, I'm a married woman. But, in your situation he very well could have been flirting and his question, "in what way then?" Could have been him baiting your feelings. Yeah that's the vibe I was getting. I'm so use to guys moving fast and coming on intensely. This one confuses me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 (edited) I am very interested in this guy. Usually I'm the one who initiates text conversation with him however yesterday he finally initiated and we talked all day to night. If the conversation died, he would send me another one and it would continue. Fast forward to today. I want to hear from him but I literally have nothing to say. We talked so much yesterday. Should I give it a couple days? I don't want him to think I'm not that interested or forget about me. I also don't want to look desperate. How does all of this work! I'm use to men doing all the work and chasing me. Edited October 10 by riversidemf Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 (edited) How long has this been going on? What are you looking for with this man? Edited October 10 by Gaeta Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 How long have you been texting? Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 9 minutes ago, Gaeta said: How long has this been going on? What are you looking for with this man? I want to get to know him more. Just now, Georgia46 said: How long have you been The end of last month is when I reacted to a post he made that ended up with him texting me about it and since then both i and him initiated conversations. We talked three times since me reacting to that post. Not much. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 7 minutes ago, riversidemf said: I want to get to know him more. The end of last month is when I reacted to a post he made that ended up with him texting me about it and since then both i and him initiated conversations. We talked three times since me reacting to that post. Not much. So you exchanged 3 times in the past 2 weeks. You said in your initial post that you were always the one initiating the text, except for today, right? Does he live far? Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 14 minutes ago, Gaeta said: So you exchanged 3 times in the past 2 weeks. You said in your initial post that you were always the one initiating the text, except for today, right? Does he live far? No today we have not texted. He lives an hour away. Last night he was last to send a message, I didn't reply back because it was late and I had to sleep. Should I be the one to text him? Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 Just now, riversidemf said: No today we have not texted. He lives an hour away. Last night he was last to send a message, I didn't reply back because it was late and I had to sleep. Should I be the one to text him? Life’s short. send him a cute GIF or something. what’s to lose? 😎 Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 Just now, Georgia46 said: Life’s short. send him a cute GIF or something. what’s to lose? 😎 My dignity, no? Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 2 minutes ago, riversidemf said: My dignity, no? Nooo he’ll love it if he likes you. from what you’ve said he’s said I think he does. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 18 minutes ago, riversidemf said: No today we have not texted. He lives an hour away. Last night he was last to send a message, I didn't reply back because it was late and I had to sleep. Should I be the one to text him? Is he a friend of a friend? How did you come across him? Link to post Share on other sites
Author riversidemf Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 23 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Is he a friend of a friend? How did you come across him? I met him at a party. I know him in person. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 7 minutes ago, riversidemf said: I met him at a party. I know him in person. AH Ok! and at that party did you 2 interact, was there a bit of flirting? I am trying to hear something about him liking you 'that way'. Sounds like even after you made the big plunge and contacted him on social media, he was not going to reciprocate and keep in touch with you. It sounds like you're forcing things a little. I would not reply to him today. That's for sure. Link to post Share on other sites
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