BrainRightHeartWrong Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 anyone realise when you really really have lost 'the one'? this is a 31 year old with a load of past relationships under his belt who never thought this before! and who knows he'll never meet anyone like this again! Link to post Share on other sites
kitten chick Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 If she doesn't love you, how can she be the one? I don't want my one not to love me. Link to post Share on other sites
Geoffrey Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 Hey, I know just how you feel.... You never know, you may be on course to meet someone even MORE wonderful and EXCITING than the one who isn't with you anymore....it's happened to me more than once.... ....and now you are FREE to chase that dream! Don't give up hope. You are still in the game and there is LOTS of time left on the clock. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 and who knows he'll never meet anyone like this again! when you meet the next "true love" then you will laugh about this one you supposedly lost... Link to post Share on other sites
bluetuesday Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 i'm sorry, BRHW, for what you're going through. but you are expending an extraordinary amount of energy on a woman who doesn't want you and therefore by definition can't be the one. i know it's painful, we've all been there - some of us time and time again. i had a terrible break up from my fiance. after six years of living together i go out of town for a few weeks on a gig and when i get back he's moved another woman into our appartment. i have no clue he's been cheating. the first i know is when i get home and see her in my home. when crisis hits you can do one of two things. you can allow it to affect you for ever. you make a decision never to really trust again and you allow this person who can't have loved you that much to ruin all your potential future happiness. or you make the decision that won't happen. you carry on knowing if she/he had been the one, they'd have still have been waking up next to you today. this woman wasn't the one, if such a thing exists. don't miss out on life because you're clinging to a notion of female perfection you can never have. now you KNOW she's gone and isn't coming back, i hope you can move past this. ireland (or wherever) is full of lovely ladies. go and grab one. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 but you are expending an extraordinary amount of energy on a woman who doesn't want you and therefore by definition can't be the one. well said, BLUETUESDAY. Link to post Share on other sites
sick of it Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 its very hard to just go out and garb your "next true love" when you still think it cant get better than the one you had Link to post Share on other sites
FWIW Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 It's silly to believe in The One, I find. Your The One was simply the first of many possible Ones That Were Good Enough For You. There could be thousands more out there - it has to be this way or the human race would die out! Imagine if there really was only the one 'One' for you - what an ordeal it would be to find them.. and what if you never met because they lived the other side of the planet?! Or if they died young?! Argh!! No, pick yourself up, accept she was NOT The One - even if YOU felt she was - it's not the case unless she felt the same - FOREVER. Accept that it's gone and yes you're justified to miss something that felt wonderful, but if you've found all that once you can find it again - hopefully even better next time. Go get another One! You may not get over her 100% until you lose your heart to another, so never give up. When you *do* fall for someone else, you will realise how silly it was to waste your life being miserable about something that was over and beyond your control. You can *DO* it - you're not useless, and she wasn't the only one who will ever appreciate you! Just get out there and meet people. Nature will do the rest Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 There are plenty of 'the ones' out there. You have to realize that not every woman is a good fit for you. I agree each day you spend pining over the love you lost is one day longer it's going to take to find 'the one.' Link to post Share on other sites
Jadey Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 The One will love you back just as much as you love them. Don't give up faith Link to post Share on other sites
scobro Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 and who knows he'll never meet anyone like this again! Now how do you know this for a fact???Right now it seems like it hell right now i feel I will never ever meet someone else or have sex again, but since I am your age chances are I probably will and so will you.It just doesn't seem like it now. buckle up little camper things will get better!!! Link to post Share on other sites
sanne Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 the single greatest mistake is believing that you will never meet a girl who was as good as your ex. if you live in this mindset, you will never find someone new. i have suffered a lot because of my ex. she cheated on me, lied to me numerous times, and then dropped me like I was nothing. i can't tell you what it did to my self-esteem, I was battered and broken. i kept thinking that I would never find another person who I loved as much as I loved her (can you believe that?). but I woke up to reality and stopped living in the past. i saw my ex for the person she was and I am a much stronger person now than ever before. it's been nearly half a year since I"ve even spoken with her, and I have absolutely no desire to contact or see her again. i am now at the point where I have found someone new, and she is absolutely amazing. i thank god each day that I was able to pull myself out of the rut I was in, otherwise I would have never met her. it's going to take strong will and dedication but I know you will see this through, and you will find someone new. Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 when you grow old together and that person didnt leave, and they are still your best friend and they give you the fluffy pillow when you dont feel good. thats when you truely know, and until then, everything else is just heads and tails. Link to post Share on other sites
penkitten Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 anyone realise when you really really have lost 'the one'? this is a 31 year old with a load of past relationships under his belt who never thought this before! and who knows he'll never meet anyone like this again! sometimes "fate" knocks upon your door and leads you to wonderful places. do not be afraid to take "fate" by the hand and follow it. sometimes we encounter the most wonderful people that we hold dear to us, they teach us something, and then sometimes we part. sometimes these peple seem like soul mates but we are not meant to stay forever but rather to lead us in a wonderful new directions, in turn we do the same for them. its all about growing on the inside and teaching others in ways to do the same. perhaps you didnt know you liked iced sweet tea on a hot afternoon until she showed up and made it while you were cutting the grass or perhaps you didnt know you liked ska music until you saw her dance to it in the kitchen while making you a cornish hen dinner which you didnt know you liked either. perhaps you learned some patience because she lost her temper and pouted alot. sooner or later you will meet someone who laughs at all your jokes, and has some of the same qualities that you already know you like, and you can share in some of your own. and perhaps that someone becomes your best friend and grows old with you and calls you her soul mate. the only catch is, you have to answer the knock on the door or you will never know how wonderful that could really be. and in order to answer the door, you must let go. dont put up anger or sadness and hurt, despair or jealousy. just remember the wonderful person for who they really are and the good things that came and love them in your heart and let it go. Link to post Share on other sites
helena abadi Posted January 7, 2006 Share Posted January 7, 2006 when you grow old together and that person didnt leave, and they are still your best friend and they give you the fluffy pillow when you dont feel good. thats when you truely know, and until then, everything else is just heads and tails. that's lovely. Link to post Share on other sites
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