Arthur89 Posted October 3 Share Posted October 3 Hello. I started chatting with this girl from my work and after a couple of days I suggested that we should meet and she was keen to agree. It was wednesday and we set up the date for another weekend. We kept in touch, chatting sporadically ,but the following wednesday she wrote to me she couldnt meet on saturday because theres so much other stuff going on with her life and she didnt feel like meeting with anyone at that moment. So I think I probably said something on the chat that turned her off. She could have gotten the impression that I tried or cared too much or something because I made some mistake like double texting her once for example. My question is I guess if anyone had a girl coming back or reinitiating contact again in similar situation , or theres no way to re-attract her. Thank you for any insights Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted October 3 Share Posted October 3 People cancelling first dates is extremely common. Don't think about it too much. She was probably just on the fence about the whole situation all along. It's likely nothing you said or did 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 3 Share Posted October 3 I doubt she lost interest because you double text her a couple of times. She probably was also talking to someone else and felt he was a better match. Don't wait around for someone that rejected you. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted October 3 Share Posted October 3 She could have started dating someone else, or maybe family or friends warned her against dating someone from work. Had you ever lunched together or gone for any casual walks outside the building or for coffee or drink after work? That's typically social time coworkers tend to use to get to know one another in a relaxed way. They may end up forming friendships, or they may just remain good 'work friends' who don't socialize outside of work. It's 'safe' time between coworkers that may--or may not--organically evolve into something more. But asking a coworker with whom you haven't spent any social time to go out on a weekend does scream, "DATE!" On reflection, she may have decided that's a kind of pressure that would make her uncomfortable if she decided not to keep seeing you afterward. I'd remain kind but keep discussions professional. If she tends to avoid you, follow her lead. If she warms up and is friendly, I would not mistake that for an opening to ask her out again. It's on her to ask you, and if she doesn't, that's your answer. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 4 Share Posted October 4 13 hours ago, Arthur89 said: So I think I probably said something on the chat that turned her off. She could have gotten the impression that I tried or cared too much or something because I made some mistake like double texting her once for example. Or she might not have been that interested to begin with. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you, or that you did anything "wrong", but if she's not into it, it's best to leave it alone. I wouldn't pursure this one, personally. I'm a woman, and I wouldn't cancel a date if I were feeling it. I think she just didn't have the heart to decline your invitation when you first asked her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted October 11 Share Posted October 11 It sucks but rejection is redirection. keep it moving 😎 take care of you 😎 Link to post Share on other sites
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