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I was dating this man for a month and half. i was feeling like he just wasn't that interested in me and I told him about it. I really like him but he is not very consistent when it comes to texting and communicating over the phone. i told him that maybe we shouldn't continue to pursue this because I felt like he wasn't interested in me. So he texted me and told me that he was falling in love and he said he hope I have an awesome life and left it as that. This was 2 days ago and I'm wondering if I should reach out to him I really liked him.

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smackie9

That is a passive/aggressive message...it's negative, and manipulative. You called him out on his behavior and he lashed back with some bs about falling in love to make you feel bad for doing it. Your gut is telling you this guy is not that into you...I would agree. He's just playing mind games. 

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2 hours ago, ladya02 said:

i told him that maybe we shouldn't continue to pursue this because I felt like he wasn't interested in me.

This sentence is basically a dumping from you, so it's not surprising he responded in that manner.   

If you've got an issue in a relationship, you've really got to turn your commentary around.  "I really like you but sometimes lack of reaching out makes me worry you're not interested.  I'd really like if you were able to stay in contact a bit more"  

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stillafool
2 hours ago, ladya02 said:

So he texted me and told me that he was falling in love and he said he hope I have an awesome life and left it as that.

 Was he saying he was falling in love with you or someone else and therefore he hopes you have an awesome life?

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Georgia46

Some people are just really bad texters. 

 

If he’s telling you he’s falling in love with you though… hmm.. give him a ring.   Nothing to lose . 

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Did he act kike a man falling in love? Did he take you out on dates? Did he want to see you often? Was he kind &  considerate toward you? Did he tell you before he enjoyed your company?

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Alpacalia

You essentially dumped him, and then muttered "Well, if you really wanted me, you should have fought harder."

Maybe you were right in your assessment that he wasn't as interested in you as you wanted him to be. He is not obligated to "fight harder" for you just because you decided to end things. Him saying he is falling in love does not mean he wants to be with you at all costs. It could just mean he is going to miss you, and he understands this is just another relationship that didn't work out.

You shouldn't interpret what he said as "fighting for you." 

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