asdasdasd Posted October 4 Share Posted October 4 I’ve known her for about two years at university, we’re in the same faculty but different major. We don’t see each other often, just occasionally passing by and chatting while waiting for classes. We actually met because we share a hobby, and we used to talk a lot online, but over time our conversations became less frequent, and we eventually lost touch. I didn’t see her last semester at all. This semester, when I ran into her again, I started to develop feelings for her. However, I found out she’ll be studying abroad around the new year for one or two semesters. I've never been in a relationship before, please give me some advice. Should I go for it, or just let it go? Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted October 4 Share Posted October 4 You had a chance when you were talking a lot online. Thst was ehrn to suggest dating. therr is a limited window for dating from whrn either you first meet or you both are available for dating. If this window has passed, it’s not likely to reopen. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 4 Share Posted October 4 Plenty of fish in the sea to worry about this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted October 6 Share Posted October 6 On 10/4/2024 at 11:01 AM, asdasdasd said: Should I go for it, or just let it go? You don't have anything to lose by trying. By not asking her out, you definitely lose. Link to post Share on other sites
Herkamer Posted October 7 Share Posted October 7 Honestly, no. From one guy to another, I, and many other men, have had similar situations. You start to like a woman because she very nice and you're physically attracted to her, and it's good she is, but, in the end, she doesn't feel the same way about you. Unless you're talking to her weekly in person on more intimate subjects, she's not worth it, at least not right now. Focus on your studies, your work, friends, family, hobbies, and personal health. Invest in you and put the grind in. You sound young enough and this is the perfect opportunity to build and bring out the best you. Don't be like me where I waited until my mid 30s until I took myself more seriously. I'm 38 y/o now, lost over 130 pounds, ballroom/Latin dancing (competitive/showcasing/socially), improved work habits, and have more of a social life than ever before. I'm happy, but part of me wished to start all that in my early 20s. So as much as you want to have a woman, take it from me, relationships should be put on the back burner for now until you're more established. Even then, it's not a guarantee that it'll happen, but you can continue living out your best life. Don't be down, and don't think I'm trying to beat you down, but I wanted to present the truth and possibility to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author asdasdasd Posted October 16 Author Share Posted October 16 On 10/4/2024 at 11:45 PM, Ami1uwant said: You had a chance when you were talking a lot online. Thst was ehrn to suggest dating. therr is a limited window for dating from whrn either you first meet or you both are available for dating. If this window has passed, it’s not likely to reopen. On 10/5/2024 at 2:25 AM, smackie9 said: Plenty of fish in the sea to worry about this one. On 10/6/2024 at 9:41 AM, Leihla_B said: You don't have anything to lose by trying. By not asking her out, you definitely lose. On 10/7/2024 at 9:39 PM, Herkamer said: Honestly, no. From one guy to another, I, and many other men, have had similar situations. You start to like a woman because she very nice and you're physically attracted to her, and it's good she is, but, in the end, she doesn't feel the same way about you. Unless you're talking to her weekly in person on more intimate subjects, she's not worth it, at least not right now. Focus on your studies, your work, friends, family, hobbies, and personal health. Invest in you and put the grind in. You sound young enough and this is the perfect opportunity to build and bring out the best you. Don't be like me where I waited until my mid 30s until I took myself more seriously. I'm 38 y/o now, lost over 130 pounds, ballroom/Latin dancing (competitive/showcasing/socially), improved work habits, and have more of a social life than ever before. I'm happy, but part of me wished to start all that in my early 20s. So as much as you want to have a woman, take it from me, relationships should be put on the back burner for now until you're more established. Even then, it's not a guarantee that it'll happen, but you can continue living out your best life. Don't be down, and don't think I'm trying to beat you down, but I wanted to present the truth and possibility to you. Thanks, I'll focus on my studies and building my career for now Link to post Share on other sites
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