Alpacalia Posted October 9 Share Posted October 9 30 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said: Thanks Alpacalia, I'm going through that 'what if' stage now lol, I did think did she expect me to check in on her because she was sick? I donno i find dating these days so hard and confusing. It's a tough spot for sure. I recall dating someone and I had fallen really ill. He called me and messaged me every day. If he had proposed a date when I got better though I would have jumped on it and I would have def inferred that I want to see him again when I got better. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maldives Posted October 9 Author Share Posted October 9 (edited) 27 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: It's a tough spot for sure. I recall dating someone and I had fallen really ill. He called me and messaged me every day. If he had proposed a date when I got better though I would have jumped on it and I would have def inferred that I want to see him again when I got better. So maybe that's what it was, her expecting me to check-in on her and me waiting on her? Funny I did notice on her profile tinder now has this option to display your love language, on hers its thoughtful gestures and on mine it's time together so maybe that's why each of us hasn't reached out maybe I'm just over analysing this and overthinking it haha. I'm so confused lol. Having said that I did check on her the following day when I asked her how she was and she did say better so thats wen I asked her out but she indicated she wanted to rest at the end. Edited October 9 by Goodguy05 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted October 9 Share Posted October 9 5 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said: So maybe that's what it was, her expecting me to check-in on her and me waiting on her? Funny I did notice on her profile tinder now has this option to display your love language, on hers its thoughtful gestures and on mine it's time together so maybe that's why each of us hasn't reached out maybe I'm just over analysing this and overthinking it haha. I'm so confused lol. I think I'm going to change my initial advice ---> ONLY BECAUSE you're still confused. In which case, I say reach out to her and see how she is feeling. Her response may give you the clarity you seek. I mean, I'm sure you've been concerned if she isn't feeling well so I don't see any harm but keep in mind that when you initiated the last contact Sunday last week and asked her out she didn't reply. Maybe she is sick and feeling rotten and can not entertain at the moment. I could be wrong and she may surprise you and reach out on her own. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maldives Posted October 9 Author Share Posted October 9 11 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: I think I'm going to change my initial advice ---> ONLY BECAUSE you're still confused. In which case, I say reach out to her and see how she is feeling. Her response may give you the clarity you seek. I mean, I'm sure you've been concerned if she isn't feeling well so I don't see any harm but keep in mind that when you initiated the last contact Sunday last week and asked her out she didn't reply. Maybe she is sick and feeling rotten and can not entertain at the moment. I could be wrong and she may surprise you and reach out on her own. "but keep in mind that when you initiated the last contact Sunday last week and asked her out she didn't reply." Just to clarify that point she did respond but said it was tempting but would see how it goes then I said to rest up and then she decided to rest up not because of my suggestion. But then after that exchange I left it and haven't heard from her again now it's 10 days lol. I don't know I would of thought if she was interested she would have messaged me since. Just wanted to clarify that. Thanks for the advice again anyway. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maldives Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 Update - she reached out turns out she was just very sick and had the flu. Anyway let's see how it goes from here Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 12 hours ago, Goodguy05 said: Update - she reached out turns out she was just very sick and had the flu. Anyway let's see how it goes from here Oh dear, I was very sick all week also, spent my nights coughing, headaches, congestion...........still I was posting on here several times a day. You think she did not have her eyes glued to her phone while she was sick? I am pretty sure she replied to her mom, her friend, her boss and she had nothing else to do then to watch tiktok. She gave you a really cheap excuse Goodguy. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maldives Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 (edited) Ye I did wonder that maybe she was waiting on me and finally caved in lol. Who knows I'll just take it a day at a time. Not sure why she took a while to respond all I can do is watch her actions from here on in ajd take it slow. In the mean time a a few others I was talking with have appeared lol so I'll keep my options open Edited October 10 by Goodguy05 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 4 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said: Ye I did wonder that maybe she was waiting on me and finally caved in lol. Who knows I'll just take it a day at a time. You initiated ALL of the 5 dates and she still waited on you to initiate contact? meh! So, lets do this your way. We are Thursday, time to invite her on your 6th date? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maldives Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 (edited) In a few days I guess yes. She gave you a really cheap excuse Goodguy. Question why reach out then I don't get it if she's not interested? Edited October 10 by Goodguy05 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 9 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said: In a few days I guess yes. Why would you let the weekend pass without trying to see her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maldives Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 (edited) Mm I didn't mention anything about letting weekend pass you did I didn't. I'm trying to understand your response though the point your trying to make? Shes not 100 percent she mentioned over it, flu Edited October 10 by Goodguy05 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 15 hours ago, Goodguy05 said: Update - she reached out turns out she was just very sick and had the flu. Anyway let's see how it goes from here What did her message say? Did she mention wanting to see you when she's feeling better? Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 10 Share Posted October 10 21 minutes ago, Goodguy05 said: Mm I didn't mention anything about letting weekend pass you did I didn't. I'm trying to understand your response though the point your trying to make? Shes not 100 percent she mentioned over it, flu My bad, you said a few days and to me 'a few days' is after the weekend. If she said she is still not back to herself then yes, wait a few days to see how she is. My point is her interest is low. It was 6 days on October 7th so now she contacted you after...9 days? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Maldives Posted October 10 Author Share Posted October 10 (edited) 30 minutes ago, Alpacalia said: What did her message say? Did she mention wanting to see you when she's feeling better? No just hey Marz my name and then we started chatting back and forth she asked if I'd gone riding cycling and I mentioned I hadn't but we could go together and she said she'd like that. I don't wanna over analyze why she took so long could be anything could be low interest could be she didn't want to bother me who knows. It's early days were not even bf or gf. @Gaetaye fair enough. It hasn't been like that though prior she was texting etc. I'm gonna let it go it was nice to get a message from her but to be honest today was the day I kind of started to move on anyway. Edited October 10 by Goodguy05 Link to post Share on other sites
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