What to think, and what to do?

[Gebidozo]

3 hours ago, Runninggirl said:

Maybe. But I don't think you can work your way out of feeling bad at all if someone doesn't reciprocate or "ghost" you after a date. 

Of course you can work your way out of that.

You just need to understand that your bad feeling has nothing to do with this guy, or with any other guy. It has something to do with the way you treat dating.

You expect too much too soon, overanalyze, worry too much, and invest way too many emotions into something that doesn’t justify that investment.

As a man, I can tell you bluntly that this kind of overthinking and this kind of fearful, nervous excitement aren’t very attractive. Men prefer to date confident women who know exactly what they want, have clear boundaries, and communicate openly, sincerely, and without fear.

You can definitely become all that, but this is something you need to work on. It is not something that any man out there can give you. And it is not something that you can acquire while continuing to make the same mistakes.

[stillafool]

On 10/21/2024 at 3:16 AM, Runninggirl said:

first mean he didn’t make a move when we met/was at his apartment and I didn’t feel like he tried to “progress” things during the date. 

What would you have liked him to do that would show you he was trying to "progress" things. 

[stillafool]

On 10/24/2024 at 4:44 PM, basil67 said:

Thing is, he didn't ghost you...he just kept up the same low interest contact which he's always had.  The only reason you were in contact was because you kept chasing him.

I agree with this.  You don't give guys a chance to pursue you, you end up pursuing them.  Like the last guy you were saw in May.  You let him come over the first time and had sex with him while he was still living with his so called ex.  We told you to not do that but to let these guys take you out instead of just coming over to your place which is a set up for sex. Instead, you still ended up inviting him over for breakfast and had sex again, but he still didn't spend the day with you.  It seems like you're just looking for sex with good looking guys as fast as you seem to have it with these men.  I notice that you describe them all as good looking or a lot of ladies seem to hang around them.  Good looking men who have a lot of women interested in them are having plenty of sex so I would suggest you start putting that on the back burner and not be easy sex for them.  That is the fastest way to get ghosted and your feelings hurt.  Pull back and let men be men and pursue you and not just sex.  Then you will know they are truly interested in you.  Give them something to look forward to, don't give yourself away so soon so they will know you value yourself.