How do I get the Love of my life, Mother of my Child back?

[RomanGamma]

We were together 7 yrs, had a "surprise" pregnancy after the first year. We brought an amazing daughter into the world and I will never regret, obviously. We had a Fire in us that first year, but when she got pregnant I started feeling resentment though out the next six years of raising our child. She eventually said she suffered in silence about our relationship and so did I. We lost communication and I pushed her away. Eventually, it was all about raising our child and not about us. She started dating again and is now planning to live with her new BF after a year of dating. All of this made me reflect on who we were what I did wrong and now she's gone. I want to start over again bc I love her and I know she loves me... We just lost the romance. I fought for her but to no avail. Now we are focused on a healthy coparenting relationship. I want my family back, I want her back and will Marry her. How do I do this, or just Move on with my life?

Edited October 10, 2024 by RomanGamma

[Georgia46]

Ahh that’s so sad to read. 
 

Sure, your relationship can’t be exactly the same when your raising babies as they do take all of your time - but there’s a shame you couldn’t of muddled on through as eventually it all gets easier. 
 

im not really sure there’s much hope of fixing things if she is moving in with and had been with someone for a year, but I suppose the only way you can find out is by having a proper chat. 
 

you can tell her you want her back & see what she says .. 

[RomanGamma]

Thanks Georgia46, I tried to tell her but she said she is happy with this new guy so I want her to be happy. She thought I no longer loved her so she was able to move on easier. Lesson learned.

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, RomanGamma said:

I want to start over again bc I love her and I know she loves me... We just lost the romance.

I’m sorry, but this is a contradiction.

Romantic love, between boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife, by definition, must have romance. If romance is lost, then so is love.

Of course the two of you care for each other, like family members, but if this is no longer love between man and woman, do you really want to pursue it?

Suppose she comes back to you. How would you even be able to rekindle the romance that you have lost? You said she was happy with  her new BF, so obviously she is in love with him now and not with you, otherwise she wouldn’t be happy. Do you really want to get back with a woman who loves another man?

Also, are you really still in love with her, or do you just miss her and feel lonely, regretful, guilty? These feelings are easy to confuse.

[stillafool]

If you really do love her and are sure she still loves you, now is the time to tell her how you feel before she moves in with the new guy.  What do you have to lose?

[basil67]

What does she do which shows that she still loves you?