Damageincx18 Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 hi eveyrone, my ex and i broke up about a 2 months ago and shes with a new guy. then today she calls me crying and saying she misses me. i told i miss her too. she's quiting her job because we work at the same place and so does her new man. she quiting because its to much for her to handle. i ask her what she was really trying to tell me and she had no answer. what does this all mean. do i have a second chance maybe? Link to post Share on other sites
CaliGuy Posted January 5, 2006 Share Posted January 5, 2006 First off, congrats. Secondly, NEVER BE IN A RUSH TO GET BACK TOGETHER! I think you should take things slowly, let her come around, let her suggest. Don't ask too many questions, just enjoy whatever time you have together and don't put any pressure on her. Have you changed since you split? Have you done any self-improvement? What caused the breakup? You'll need address whatever the issues were. If you're still the same people and the situation hasn't changed odds are a second chance won't work. Figure out what went wrong, resolve to improve where you can, take things slow, let her initiate the progress in the relationship. Make sure you've learned from your past mistakes. Missing you only part of equation. She has to have those old feelings back and it's too soon to tell quite yet. But - congrats! Link to post Share on other sites
Aureus Posted January 6, 2006 Share Posted January 6, 2006 I was in the same situation. She called crying after NC and she had/has a bf. But she wanted to stay with her new bf in the end (though telling me I still have a chance in the future). I hope yours is more successful. Link to post Share on other sites
gfto Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 You two didn't "break up." She dumped you. And, it sounds like she replaced you in a hurry! Why did you even answer the phone when she called? Because you're still crazy about her. She doesn't feel the same way about you though. She just needed a shoulder to cry on, and she knew you'd be there. Link to post Share on other sites
Enygmatic Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 You two didn't "break up." She dumped you. And, it sounds like she replaced you in a hurry! Why did you even answer the phone when she called? Because you're still crazy about her. She doesn't feel the same way about you though. She just needed a shoulder to cry on, and she knew you'd be there. Gfto is right...she dumped you. Definitely I wouldn't recomend you to go back with her.... She failed you once, she disrespected your trust. When someone dumps you its not good to go back with that person, because he/she already chose someone over you. You may say that she wasnt cheating on you by the time you were breaking up.....but you know thats bs...even if she wasnt cheating... how come she got a new boyfriend so fast???, did she ever care about what was going on between the two of you?....If once she didnt value the person you are...what makes you believe that it won't happen again. Just enjoy your life, meet new people but the most important "Dont Try go Back With Her". You said that she told you that there could be something in the future right?.....Well guess what...she is using you as her second choice....so if her new relationship doesnt work, she will always have you there.....Do you you want to be the second choice??? I think you are worth more than that. Link to post Share on other sites
Brittanyjean06 Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 from a girls perspective- I happen to dump my ex- witch came back and hit me in the face- of course i still have those in love feelings for him- and if i happen to have a boyfriend right now- ( and if my ex talked to me)- i would still have feelings for him- You might not be on the backburner- but she is trying to move on with someone else- but let her make her own mistakes- dont be there for her- when she misses you- she did dump you- she is with someone else- but she loves you, and she will regret it- just do not make anything easy on her- do not talk to her- she freaking dumped you let the girl miss you man i did the same thing- i dumped my ex- and im giving you advice hahaah i look like a retard my ex did treat me like crap though! Link to post Share on other sites
oss91 Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Let her miss you, let her see what things are like without you around. Easier said than done, I know, but still necessary. Let her date other guys and figure out for herself if she is truly happiest being with you. That's only a decision she can make for herself. IMO, breaking the relationship and then getting back together doesn't mean you're the fall back plan, it means you were the right one all along. They just didn't know that at the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Aureus Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 Let her miss you, let her see what things are like without you around. Easier said than done, I know, but still necessary. Let her date other guys and figure out for herself if she is truly happiest being with you. That's only a decision she can make for herself. IMO, breaking the relationship and then getting back together doesn't mean you're the fall back plan, it means you were the right one all along. They just didn't know that at the time. I share the same sentiments. Throwing away a second chance could lead to regret. Link to post Share on other sites
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