Goodguy05 Posted October 17 Share Posted October 17 On 10/16/2024 at 1:03 AM, max3732 said: That's how I feel too. If I get 1 reply back from someone with an online app or site I don't think we're dating. I've also recently had a date set with a woman and then she unmatched me a day before. I don't think we were dating I asked what she meant and answered about my situation of talking to a few people online. Her next reply was that I had asked her out before she was sick and she wants to make it clear when she goes out with someone she expects the man to not only pay for the meal, but for her ride share to/from the location if we don't meet within walking distance of where she lives. Her exact phrase was "I will not spend any money on the man nor spend any more going to the date... it is all his effort and my effort is my beautiful lovely company" That seems a bit odd to me to say the least. Of course I was already planning on paying for the meal, but the place we're meeting has free parking. I'm guessing she doesn't have a car either? People ask how I'm still single, but this is what I'm navigating with these dates. I'm a bit confused With that kind of entitled response, it already tells you alot about this person her expectations. I wouldn't bother with her. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted October 17 Share Posted October 17 On 10/16/2024 at 1:03 AM, max3732 said: That's how I feel too. If I get 1 reply back from someone with an online app or site I don't think we're dating. I've also recently had a date set with a woman and then she unmatched me a day before. I don't think we were dating I asked what she meant and answered about my situation of talking to a few people online. Her next reply was that I had asked her out before she was sick and she wants to make it clear when she goes out with someone she expects the man to not only pay for the meal, but for her ride share to/from the location if we don't meet within walking distance of where she lives. Her exact phrase was "I will not spend any money on the man nor spend any more going to the date... it is all his effort and my effort is my beautiful lovely company" That seems a bit odd to me to say the least. Of course I was already planning on paying for the meal, but the place we're meeting has free parking. I'm guessing she doesn't have a car either? People ask how I'm still single, but this is what I'm navigating with these dates. I'm a bit confused With that kind of entitled response, it already tells you alot about this person her expectations. I wouldn't bother with her. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted October 17 Share Posted October 17 " I want to be a provider for the woman I date and marry" So your basically paying for love. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted October 17 Share Posted October 17 (edited) I'm spending a lot of time and effort sending personalized messages to women, getting a few matches that turn out to be in other states or countries and then finally get someone who lives near me and 3/4 of those disappear after a message or 2. So I finally get one in front of me and it feels to be that things are going well and we're compatible and I get the "you're a great guy, lots going for you, but I didn't feel a romantic connection. Good luck!" Welcome to the club. I get that but I realised thinking a woman will fill the void in your life is not the answer. No woman will complete you. Just let it go and try and have other things to focus on not just having a relationship. And then when you do meet someone wether it be on this app or In a natural setting you will be much more relaxed and confident and give off a better vibe and not come across so eager, which can be a turn off for woman. Getting frustrated with dating apps is not the answer trust me. Just have them there in the background and when one does pop up that's local which I agree are far and few between then try again. But not so hard where you go to the point where your trying to justify the behaviour of an entitled woman like this one, who will use you for a meal ticket. Edited October 17 by Goodguy05 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 17 Share Posted October 17 15 hours ago, max3732 said: I'm spending a lot of time and effort sending personalized messages to women, getting a few matches that turn out to be in other states or countries Do they lie about their locations when speaking directly to you, or are you remiss in asking their location within the first three questions? This is 'small talk' 101! And the best thing is if you find their location is near yours, then it opens up more discussion topics Quote and then finally get someone who lives near me and 3/4 of those disappear after a message or 2. So I finally get one in front of me and it feels to be that things are going well and we're compatible and I get the "you're a great guy, lots going for you, but I didn't feel a romantic connection. Good luck!" This happens to everyone. Do you not read other people's stories? Heck, even as a young woman dating in the '80's, I'd think there was a connection and then find that he didn't see me in a romantic way. Quote By being a provider I mean I can take care of both of us financially and she doesn't have to continue working if she doesn't want to and I'd love for her to be a stay at home mom. I would think we'd combine both our incomes. OK, so you wouldn't actually expect her to stop work...that's good. Would you be a stay at home dad if she preferred to stay working? 15 hours ago, max3732 said: I'm weeding out profiles where the woman has purple hair, nose rings, tattoos, uses profanity, Interesting that you get sad/mad about women deciding that you're not compatible when you think there's potential, yet so many women have tattoos and you're ruling them out without even meeting them. I'm not saying you need to date people you don't want, but women have just as much right as you do to dismiss a potential partner over trivial stuff Quote I wouldn't want to be married to a woman whose life was about her career and wouldn't want to have kids and didn't have any other hobbies or interests. While there are certainly women who don't want children, how many women have you actually met that has no interests outside of work? Surely they have friends, or like going to restaurants, or walking, or the gym, or vacations. If they truly lived to work, they wouldn't be on a dating app 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted October 23 Share Posted October 23 After that question, it would have been a hard pass from me. Massive 🚩 indicative of a jealous, inscure, controlling and manipulative woman. Life is way too short to be dealing with that nonsense. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted October 23 Share Posted October 23 On 10/15/2024 at 6:03 PM, max3732 said: Her next reply was that I had asked her out before she was sick and she wants to make it clear when she goes out with someone she expects the man to not only pay for the meal, but for her ride share to/from the location if we don't meet within walking distance of where she lives. Her exact phrase was "I will not spend any money on the man nor spend any more going to the date... it is all his effort and my effort is my beautiful lovely company" That seems a bit odd to me to say the least. 😂 "A bit odd" is a nice way of putting it. So are you actually planning on going on this date? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author max3732 Posted November 8 Author Share Posted November 8 On 10/23/2024 at 2:12 PM, Acacia98 said: 😂 "A bit odd" is a nice way of putting it. So are you actually planning on going on this date? Haha. No, I unmatched her. It was just too much 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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