Sulleeenfield Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 Ladies and gentlemen please chime in, I'd like to hear your stories. How did it started? How did the transition went? Did that relationship last? Does love work in that fashion? Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 Yes, though it was perhaps a borderline case. I met my now-fiancée 4 years ago, she was single, I was in a relationship. I chose to stay with my then-girlfriend back then, and we lost contact. A year after that, she reconnected with her ex-boyfriend. He was in another country and it was all over text and phone, but he proposed to her. 2 years ago, my ex and I broke up, and I reconnected with my now-fiancée. She then told that man that she won’t marry him, and we got together. The transition can be easy or difficult, short or long, depending on circumstances. By and large, I think leaving someone for someone else is always problematic and painful, especially when the person that was left didn’t do anything wrong. Strong guilt feelings aren’t uncommon. Yes, I think love can work in that fashion as well, but it certainly adds a layer of difficulties. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Goodguy05 Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 Yep, a few. I'd be wary this time round. They do it to them, they'll do it to you. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 Yep. It happens but if someone breaks up with their partner for you don't think for a second they wouldn't do the same thing to you. In the end of you are wanting an actual relationship it's better to look at people who are already broken up/divorced/or at the very least separated. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 1 hour ago, Goodguy05 said: Yep, a few. I'd be wary this time round. They do it to them, they'll do it to you. Not necessarily. I did it to some people, I didn’t do it to other people. I know some people who did it only once in their lives. I know other people who never did it and then broke up with their partner many years later. There is absolutely no correlation here. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 I haven't dated someone that was in a relationship and left the relationship to be with me. Albeit, when I was in high school, I broke up with my then boyfriend because I became attracted to someone else. I agree with @Sony12it's wise to not get involved with someone already in a relationship. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 Ya I did and it was stupidest thing I ever did because I pushed for it out of my selfishness, and my immaturity. And no I didn't get dumped, I dumped him. It just turned out that he wasn't for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 Yes. He chased me while he was living with his girlfriend. I was single. We fell in love. He left her. We stayed together for 2 years and literally had the best time. We were young early 20s at that time & eventually split up anyway….. it depends it can work. I don’t believe in the if they’d do it to them they’d do it to you 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 2 hours ago, Gebidozo said: I broke up with some people to be with other people, and then there were people I broke up with while not having any other person in mind, and then there were people who broke up with me, and then there was a time I should have broken up with a person for another person and I didn’t do it, and then there are people I would never break up with for another person. It’s all individual and depends on the case. I agree. My caution would be as much about my own behavior as that of the one who pursues me. It's a lousy idea to encourage or even entertain behavior that's disloyal to a partner because it positions you to witness one's capacity for disloyalty. And you can never 'unsee' that. It can become a poison should you couple up. Every minor bump in the road can raise concerns about past behavior predicting the same disloyalty to you. For instance, if a man is willing to cheat with me, I'd want nothing to do with him--so if I were attracted to a man with a partner, I would discourage him from behaving in ways that I'd find unacceptable AS his partner. I'd send him on his way to either resolve his old business or forget about me. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 I would never date a man that was already in a relationship with someone else. That would make me a poacher. I admit when I was in high school I began feeling attracted to someone else but I broke things off with my atm boyfriend because I didn't feel it was fair to be in a relationship if I was attracted to someone else. I think it's important to be faithful and respect other people's relationships, even if you have feelings for them. 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spiritedaway2003 Posted October 16 Share Posted October 16 (edited) Yes, he did. We weren't "looking for it" (I certainly wasn't), but our meeting was a catalyst of sort for him. He left his marriage. I was single but we didn't get together for some time so we can sort out our issues. At one point, I considered how much easier my life could be if I'd just move on without him, but there was a connection I cannot explain. He felt like home to me. I couldn't not give us a chance. We've been together ever since, and he's still my best friend and the love of my life. We communicate on the same wavelengths even on difficult topics, so we have no trust issues. Edited October 16 by spiritedaway2003 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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