Understanding2024 Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 Firstly, I would like to start off by saying that any advice is greatly appreciated. My S/O and I have known each other for 6 years, but we only have been together for 1 1/2 years. Like any relationship, it seems to have its ups, and downs, but we always manage to come through. For a few months now he has gotten emotionally distant, less affectionate, and we are rarely intimate, and this has been the issues of arguments in our past disputes, and he always seems to manage to disregard my feelings when I tell him that I am not feeling wanted by him, and gets really angry, and tells me to leave etc. At this point I am wishing I took heed to those statements long before i got here to where I am today as my heart feels as if it is just shattering and breaking open from my chest. Yesterday I was taking care of some laundry, and as always check pockets before i throw anything into the wash, and I found a half-eaten viagra pill in his sweat pants that he most recently wore. When he arrived home, I couldn't help myself because of everything that has been going on as of late, and flat out asked him why he had that in his pocket, and his reasoning was just flat out ridiculous blaming it on me saying that when he wants to be intimate he doesn't want to have any issues with me, and even showed me where he keeps extras which mind you are in his shoe boxes where he keeps his shoes he will wear for the day. At this very moment he has expressed that we are no longer together, and many other things, and has literally made me feel as if I am going absolutely crazy.. I have laid in this bed and cried myself to sleep more times than I can count without any consolation, and as I type this I have moved all of my things together in preparation to leave, and am sleeping on the couch.. I know the answer deep down inside, but my heart doesn't want to believe it.... I trusted him, I came into this relationship after 7 1/2 years of an abusive past to be loved, not to be hurt again, and i feel so hurt..... Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 I’m very sorry, but I don’t think that you are over reacting. 3 hours ago, Understanding2024 said: At this very moment he has expressed that we are no longer together, and many other things, and has literally made me feel as if I am going absolutely crazy. This is why I would leave. Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 4 hours ago, Understanding2024 said: Like any relationship, it seems to have its ups, and downs, but we always manage to come through. See, that's often a mistake people make, to think it's normal to manage through ups and down in short relationships. It's not. Those ups and downs were indicative your relationship was in trouble. 4 hours ago, Understanding2024 said: I came into this relationship after 7 1/2 years of an abusive past to be loved, not to be hurt again, and i feel so hurt..... When we come out of an abusive relationship we 'almost' always get back into another abusive relationship. It's often a different kind of abuse but it's still abuse. This time around you won't wait 7 years to leave right? You will leave now, emotionally get back on your feet, and next time you will make a better choice for partner. I am very sorry you are going through this, faster you leave, faster you will get over it and back on your feet. Please do not keep in touch with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 6 hours ago, Understanding2024 said: I came into this relationship after 7 1/2 years of an abusive past to be loved, not to be hurt again, and i feel so hurt..... How much solo time did you take on your own between these relationships? Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted October 18 Share Posted October 18 I don't think you are over-reacting. It's time to end this. It's clearly making you miserable, and I think he's full of equine doo-doo about the Viagra. I can't see any reason to stay. Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted October 19 Share Posted October 19 This relationship is clearly over. You just need to process that and make arrangements to leave. Link to post Share on other sites
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