lostgirl01 Posted Monday at 06:41 PM Share Posted Monday at 06:41 PM I met this guy from Tinder. We chatted a lot for few weeks, had two great dates. Everything went well and after 2nd date he asked me if I want to have dinner at his place. I agreed. He made dinner for me, we talked a lot and he kissed me. We cuddled. Yes, he wanted more…But I don’t wanted to have sex, it was too soon for me. He doesn’t pushed me for that. After the date he drove me back to my place. The next day he texted me late in the evening how was my day etc. I asked him about his day and said we will chat next day, because I was really tired (long day at work, I work at the hospital). He wrote “You are going to sleep when I finnaly have a free time :) “ In the morning I texted him “Yeah, we need to make free time and chat”. And that’s it. He didn’t write me first from that day. Next day I asked him if everything is ok and how is he. He just wrote “oh, I am really busy, I have so much work to do”. I asked him when he will have free time and he didn’t answered anymore. It was a week when he didn’t text me anymore. Maybe you have suggestions why I have been ghosted? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Marka Posted Monday at 07:00 PM Share Posted Monday at 07:00 PM (edited) You haven't been ghosted per se, he replied to your message and then you both stopped texting. Clearly this guy has just lost interest and performed slow fade on you hoping that you will get a hint. Could be for many different reasons, maybe he operates 3 dates rule, but it doesn't really matter. Happened to any of us. Just delete his number and start chatting with other men. Also dont accept man's invitation for home date if you are not ready for sex. Sends a wrong message. Better go out instead. Edited Monday at 07:01 PM by Marka 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostgirl01 Posted Monday at 07:20 PM Author Share Posted Monday at 07:20 PM So you think there is no way to make him interested again? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted Monday at 07:30 PM Share Posted Monday at 07:30 PM 8 minutes ago, lostgirl01 said: So you think there is no way to make him interested again? You should never ever beg anyone to treat you right and make you a priority! he’s letting you know it wasn’t a good match. date others… this one was lukewarm. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted Monday at 11:39 PM Share Posted Monday at 11:39 PM I would suggest not to accept dinner at a man's place unless you're ready for sex. He offered to make you dinner at his place for the 3rd date and probably expected sex and since it didn't happen and then you were too tired to even have a conversation with him, he quickly lost interest. I would move on if I were you because he doesn't think you're compatible. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Marka Posted 23 hours ago Share Posted 23 hours ago 5 hours ago, lostgirl01 said: So you think there is no way to make him interested again? why would you want to do it? date men who naturally interested in you. This one is not. He maybe was looking for sex primarily, inviting to his house on second date is very cheeky. would be worse being slow faded/ghosted after having sex with him, so you can consider it lucky escape. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Marka Posted 23 hours ago Share Posted 23 hours ago 1 hour ago, stillafool said: I would suggest not to accept dinner at a man's place unless you're ready for sex. He offered to make you dinner at his place for the 3rd date and probably expected sex and since it didn't happen and then you were too tired to even have a conversation with him, he quickly lost interest. I would move on if I were you because he doesn't think you're compatible. it doesnt sound his interest was too strong to begin with tbf Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted 14 hours ago Share Posted 14 hours ago 8 hours ago, Marka said: it doesnt sound his interest was too strong to begin with tbf Who texted last? He probably thinks you aren't into him. No sex and perhaps he feels you aren't into him either. Or he just not into you either Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostgirl01 Posted 14 hours ago Author Share Posted 14 hours ago I texted last. I asked him how is he and maybe he want to meet me. I didn’t get the answer to these texts Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted 11 hours ago Share Posted 11 hours ago He clearly was mainly looking for sex and lost interest when he didn't get it. As others have said don't accept a dinner date at a guys house unless you are ready to go to bed with him. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted 8 hours ago Share Posted 8 hours ago 20 hours ago, lostgirl01 said: So you think there is no way to make him interested again? You tried...... 5 hours ago, lostgirl01 said: I texted last. I asked him how is he and maybe he want to meet me. I didn’t get the answer to these texts This is the answer to your question. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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