lostgirl01 Posted October 28 Share Posted October 28 I met this guy from Tinder. We chatted a lot for few weeks, had two great dates. Everything went well and after 2nd date he asked me if I want to have dinner at his place. I agreed. He made dinner for me, we talked a lot and he kissed me. We cuddled. Yes, he wanted more…But I don’t wanted to have sex, it was too soon for me. He doesn’t pushed me for that. After the date he drove me back to my place. The next day he texted me late in the evening how was my day etc. I asked him about his day and said we will chat next day, because I was really tired (long day at work, I work at the hospital). He wrote “You are going to sleep when I finnaly have a free time :) “ In the morning I texted him “Yeah, we need to make free time and chat”. And that’s it. He didn’t write me first from that day. Next day I asked him if everything is ok and how is he. He just wrote “oh, I am really busy, I have so much work to do”. I asked him when he will have free time and he didn’t answered anymore. It was a week when he didn’t text me anymore. Maybe you have suggestions why I have been ghosted? Link to post Share on other sites
Marka Posted October 28 Share Posted October 28 (edited) You haven't been ghosted per se, he replied to your message and then you both stopped texting. Clearly this guy has just lost interest and performed slow fade on you hoping that you will get a hint. Could be for many different reasons, maybe he operates 3 dates rule, but it doesn't really matter. Happened to any of us. Just delete his number and start chatting with other men. Also dont accept man's invitation for home date if you are not ready for sex. Sends a wrong message. Better go out instead. Edited October 28 by Marka 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostgirl01 Posted October 28 Author Share Posted October 28 So you think there is no way to make him interested again? Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted October 28 Share Posted October 28 8 minutes ago, lostgirl01 said: So you think there is no way to make him interested again? You should never ever beg anyone to treat you right and make you a priority! he’s letting you know it wasn’t a good match. date others… this one was lukewarm. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 28 Share Posted October 28 I would suggest not to accept dinner at a man's place unless you're ready for sex. He offered to make you dinner at his place for the 3rd date and probably expected sex and since it didn't happen and then you were too tired to even have a conversation with him, he quickly lost interest. I would move on if I were you because he doesn't think you're compatible. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marka Posted October 29 Share Posted October 29 5 hours ago, lostgirl01 said: So you think there is no way to make him interested again? why would you want to do it? date men who naturally interested in you. This one is not. He maybe was looking for sex primarily, inviting to his house on second date is very cheeky. would be worse being slow faded/ghosted after having sex with him, so you can consider it lucky escape. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Marka Posted October 29 Share Posted October 29 1 hour ago, stillafool said: I would suggest not to accept dinner at a man's place unless you're ready for sex. He offered to make you dinner at his place for the 3rd date and probably expected sex and since it didn't happen and then you were too tired to even have a conversation with him, he quickly lost interest. I would move on if I were you because he doesn't think you're compatible. it doesnt sound his interest was too strong to begin with tbf Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted October 29 Share Posted October 29 8 hours ago, Marka said: it doesnt sound his interest was too strong to begin with tbf Who texted last? He probably thinks you aren't into him. No sex and perhaps he feels you aren't into him either. Or he just not into you either Link to post Share on other sites
Author lostgirl01 Posted October 29 Author Share Posted October 29 I texted last. I asked him how is he and maybe he want to meet me. I didn’t get the answer to these texts Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted October 29 Share Posted October 29 He clearly was mainly looking for sex and lost interest when he didn't get it. As others have said don't accept a dinner date at a guys house unless you are ready to go to bed with him. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 29 Share Posted October 29 20 hours ago, lostgirl01 said: So you think there is no way to make him interested again? You tried...... 5 hours ago, lostgirl01 said: I texted last. I asked him how is he and maybe he want to meet me. I didn’t get the answer to these texts This is the answer to your question. Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted October 31 Share Posted October 31 (edited) The right person for you will view you through the right lens. He'll be interested in getting to know you beyond how quickly you're willing to have sex with him. Keep dating on neutral ground unless and until you trust him and feel ready to be sexual with him. The right man for you will be okay with that. All others will screen themselves out early, which is a favor to you rather than an insult. You're only looking for the RIGHT man, correct? (If so, what would be worth trying to preserve with the wrong ones?) Edited October 31 by Leihla_B Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 1 Share Posted November 1 I would get the impression sex was really all he was after...he probably would have ghosted if you anyways. You dodged a bullet. Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted November 1 Share Posted November 1 If he was really keen up until you declined the sex, then started to change his usual texting pattern… he was only after a bit. As it’s not what you want… lucky escape. As others have said, he’d have had sex with you and still ghosted 👻 by the looks of it. delete & move on - plenty more fish in the sea Link to post Share on other sites
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