what does it mean if a girl from a dating app says she's chatting with other guys off the app?

[basil67]

3 minutes ago, 2bittz said:

I'm just wondering whether their kissing is actual attraction that could potentially lead to no strings sex, or if it's any real attraction at all. I'd rather it at least lead to sex than nothing.

Wait....you're feeling sad and rejected because kisses don't necessarily lead to casual sex?   Dude, what is wrong with you?

I thought you were sad because kissing didn't translate to getting a relationship

[2bittz]

5 minutes ago, basil67 said:

Wait....you're feeling sad and rejected because kisses don't necessarily lead to casual sex?   Dude, what is wrong with you?

I thought you were sad because kissing didn't translate to getting a relationship

yes, that was the main focus of my post technically I think I ultimately want an actual connection perhaps. not sure 100% but i'd rather be having sex than getting nothing. lol at least if the kisses that don't lead to sex are still actual physical attraction, then knowing that is also better than nothing. I wanna know whether these women actually find me attractive or are just drunk basically.. because then it makes me feel that I might be attractive enough to maybe have a chance

Edited 4 hours ago by 2bittz

[basil67]

6 minutes ago, 2bittz said:

yes, that was the main focus of my post technically I think I ultimately want an actual connection perhaps. not sure 100% but i'd rather be having sex than getting nothing. lol at least if the kisses that don't lead to sex are still actual physical attraction, then knowing that is also better than nothing. I wanna know whether these women actually find me attractive or are just drunk basically.. because then it makes me feel that I might be attractive enough to maybe have a chance

When drunk, some women may find you properly attractive and be interested in dating you.  Some may find you attractive and not want a date.  Some may find you attractive and have a boyfriend at home.  And some are wearing 'beer googles' and you're only attractive to them on the night. 

The only way to find out how they really feel is to get their number at the end of the night and call them the next day.  Either ask them on a date or ask if they wanna come to your place to 'Netflix and chill'

[2bittz]

1 minute ago, basil67 said:

When drunk, some women may find you properly attractive and be interested in dating you.  Some may find you attractive and not want a date.  Some may find you attractive and have a boyfriend at home.  And some are wearing 'beer googles' and you're only attractive to them on the night. 

The only way to find out how they really feel is to get their number at the end of the night and call them the next day.  Either ask them on a date or ask if they wanna come to your place to 'Netflix and chill'

makes sense. that's what I was thinking. in my experience I have also had beer goggles but on rare occasions still found them attractive after the fact

[Gebidozo]

51 minutes ago, 2bittz said:

yes, that was the main focus of my post technically I think I ultimately want an actual connection perhaps. not sure 100% but i'd rather be having sex than getting nothing. lol at least if the kisses that don't lead to sex are still actual physical attraction, then knowing that is also better than nothing. I wanna know whether these women actually find me attractive or are just drunk basically.. because then it makes me feel that I might be attractive enough to maybe have a chance

Do you realize how unattractive this sounds?

Let me rephrase what you just wrote and show you what it feels like.

“I’m lonely and insecure. I’d be okay with anything, really, even a drunken kiss from a random girl in a bar would be enough if only I knew she finds me somewhat attractive. I really don’t know what I want, maybe I’ll be okay with commitment, who knows, but actually I just want some sex to soothe my fragile ego”.

Now, be honest with yourself. If you were an attractive, mature, confident woman, would you date a guy who is projecting this kind of vibe?

 

 

[2bittz]

13 minutes ago, Gebidozo said:

Do you realize how unattractive this sounds?

Let me rephrase what you just wrote and show you what it feels like.

“I’m lonely and insecure. I’d be okay with anything, really, even a drunken kiss from a random girl in a bar would be enough if only I knew she finds me somewhat attractive. I really don’t know what I want, maybe I’ll be okay with commitment, who knows, but actually I just want some sex to soothe my fragile ego”.

Now, be honest with yourself. If you were an attractive, mature, confident woman, would you date a guy who is projecting this kind of vibe?

 

 

they don't know I think like this lol

[fred123]

4 hours ago, 2bittz said:

Is drunken attraction ever real at least? Because I've had a lot of drunk girls kiss me. And I'm more concerned with the fact that she felt the need to tell me she was chatting with other guys. If that meant she was never interested why did she go on the date?

 

Did she tell you about other guys on the actual date or before?

[2bittz]

19 minutes ago, fred123 said:

Did she tell you about other guys on the actual date or before?

before

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, 2bittz said:

they don't know I think like this lol

Of course they do! Do you really think women are dumb? They’re picking up on this sad vibe of yours within seconds. And obviously that turns them off.

Possibly the most unattractive type of men are those obnoxious over-the-top guys who think any woman wants to sleep with them. But equally off-putting are guys who would beg for affection and agree to any humiliating condition (drunken sex, pity sex, friendzoned while hoping for sex, etc.).

What’s common to both types? Insecurity. The first pretends and overcompensates to hide it, the second embraces it in hopes of being qualified as a “nice guy”. Don’t go down either of those roads, they both lead nowhere.