Help me out

[1Life2Live]

Ok I been traveling for work for the past 5 months and have been able to save close to 10,000 dollars. I’m tired of traveling and ready to stay home and build a family, I got two job offers that pays very well. Ok so here’s the situation I have been talking to two different women and I got to chose now that I’m back home I been knowing both them for over 4 years. Let’s call the first woman Sarah l, she has a great career, going to school to get her bachelor degree. Has her own crib and car, she is ambitious and motivates me to be better me. Everything you want in a woman the only thing is I’m not attractive to you I was before but not anymore and that’s a big problem for me. Now the second woman let’s call her Jessica, I’m attracted to her she turns me on but she doesn’t make that much money. She caters to me she cooks, clean, give me massages. Makes me feel like a king I love that. My problem with her is she drinks a lot every other night she wants to get drunk and I’m not a drinker like that she that really turns me off about her. Other thing is I feel like she is content and not ambitious as she should be. So who would you chose?

[basil67]

'You've known both women for over four years.  If you haven't chosen to ask either of them to be your girlfriend in this time, then neither of them are suitable. 

 

[1Life2Live]

4 minutes ago, basil67 said:

'You've known both women for over four years.  If you haven't chosen to ask either of them to be your girlfriend in this time, then neither of them are suitable. 

 

I was with 1 for 2 years and the other one on and off for almost 2 years 

Edited 22 hours ago by 1Life2Live

[MsJayne]

Neither. The career girl would eventually work out that you were with her for the wrong reasons, and the drinker is immature. Find a partner who you're attracted to and see as your equal. 

[Gebidozo]

Definitely not Sarah, since you aren’t attracted to her.

As for Jessica, well, how bad is her drinking? Does she flirt too much with men when she’s drunk? Does it affect other aspects of her life negatively? There is nothing wrong with having a few drinks from time to time. You don’t have to drink with her, it’s just something she likes doing. 

[Gaeta]

None of them. 

You're not attracted to the first one so no point debating it.

The second one is getting drunk every 2nd night. It's not the same has having a drink from time to time. Getting drunk every 2nd night is an addiction. It's also an addiction that keeps her in earning very little money and using this money to buy alcohol. She is also mortgaging her health. May look like nothing if she's under 40 but it's a habit that will bring on a series of health issues and on top of that she will start looking much older than her real age.