2bittz Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 (edited) does it just depend how good looking you are? Like I went out on a date recently with a girl at a museum and there were a lot of holiday decorations on the ceiling and there was a moment where we were in an exhibit room alone. I wanted to be like, "this that a mistletoe up there?" but idk if that would have been creepy? Ive tried offering wristbands to women at raves during convos and wouldnt let go for a couple of seconds and then tell them things like "btw I'm included with the wristband" and once got a light nervous laugh out of it. idk, this stuff is complicated to me. people tell me it's creepy but I guess it depends how the girl is acting towards you. at least the girl on the date that I had seemed to be laughing a lot but apparently there was no chemistry according to her.. Edited October 30 by 2bittz grammar Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 (edited) If you're getting dates (and as per your other thread, kisses in nightclubs) then you're good looking enough. It's your social skills which need work. Get some mates to give you suggestions. Looks may get you in the door, but it's your social skills which seal the deal Edited October 30 by basil67 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2bittz Posted October 30 Author Share Posted October 30 (edited) 2 minutes ago, basil67 said: If you're getting dates (and as per your other thread, kisses in nightclubs) then you're good looking enough. It's your social skills which need work. Get some mates to give you suggestions. Looks may get you in the door, but it's your social skills which seal the deal even if both are rare occurrences? although it seemed more common in college, but I'm assuming most of us were hammered Edited October 30 by 2bittz Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 You've already stated that you're very choosy on which women you are attracted to, so the natural result of that is rarely finding mutual attraction. And, you still need good social skills Being fussy leaves you with fewer options. It's just how it goes Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2bittz Posted October 30 Author Share Posted October 30 7 minutes ago, basil67 said: If you're getting dates (and as per your other thread, kisses in nightclubs) then you're good looking enough. It's your social skills which need work. Get some mates to give you suggestions. Looks may get you in the door, but it's your social skills which seal the deal yea Ive noticed idk how to start convos with a random girl I never met. but if I get drunk enough I get past the awkward discomfort of trying to dance with her and then we dance and eventually it may happen where we kiss. I wish I knew how to make it happen through convos though. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 Google it. Seriously, there's so much stuff out there on how to start a conversation and make small talk Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 (edited) 35 minutes ago, 2bittz said: does it just depend how good looking you are? Absolutely not. What it does depend on, however, is how much a woman likes you. Bottom line, if she doesn’t like you, this stuff you’re doing isn’t going to make her attracted to you. If she does, well, then it further depends on whether she likes this kind of humor or not. I like saying very naughty funny things, but obviously I only do that with women who are for sure attracted to me and wouldn’t be offended by that. Like in your other thread, you seem to be missing the point here. Your problem isn’t what you do or don’t do per se, and surely not what you look like. It’s your exceedingly high expectations from meaningless encounters and your inability to go only for women with whom you have mutual chemistry. Edited October 30 by Gebidozo Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted October 30 Share Posted October 30 15 hours ago, 2bittz said: ...the girl on the date that I had seemed to be laughing a lot but apparently there was no chemistry according to her.. Not everyone wants to date the class clown. There's a difference between occasional humor to keep otherwise good conversations light versus a contant shtick that acts as a barrier to actually getting to know someone. Don't put on a show. By relaxing and being a bit gentle, you invite a woman to relax and feel comfortable with you. If you make it all about being quick with a joke, you may get laughs but not a second date. Link to post Share on other sites
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