Navigating Work Friendships and Unexpected Spa Invites

[realkenny1742]

Hey everyone! So, I recently joined a new real estate company, and as a brand-new agent in the industry, I’m getting used to the hustle. One thing that’s made the experience more interesting is meeting a colleague who's also relatively new—she’s about 8 months into her real estate journey. She’s married, has three kids, and is about 7 years older than me. But we get along really well, and she’s got a great sense of humor and an easy-going personality.

Now, if you know anything about real estate in New Zealand, you’re basically running your own mini-business. No salary—it’s all commission-based, so finding listings and closing deals is everything. We’ve been hitting the pavement together, attending events, meeting clients, and building our networks. And honestly, we’ve had some fun moments. She’s kind of flirty sometimes, like standing a little closer when we talk or being playful. One time, we were out at an event that ended up getting canceled, so we decided to walk around and check out some properties. The wind was messing with her long skirt, and I jokingly told her, “Hey, don’t worry, there’s no one around,” and she laughed it off, even though I was right there. It was just one of those funny, light-hearted moments.

So, here’s where it gets a bit more interesting: we have a client who lives out of town but owns a house in our area. He recently told us he was planning to come by for some shopping and relaxation with his wife, but then out of nowhere, he canceled, saying something personal came up. Right after that, he sent me a text: he and his wife had booked a massage and spa package and couldn’t use it, so he offered it to us.

Now I’m in this spot where I’m wondering if I should even bring this up to her. Would it be weird to say, “Hey, want to use this spa day our client offered us?” Would it come off as creepy, or would she see it as just a friendly invite? She’s married, so I don’t want to overstep any boundaries, but I also don’t want to make it weird by not mentioning it. What do you guys think—should I bring it up or just pass on the whole idea?

[basil67]

Can you define 'spa'?  Are you sitting naked together in a spa bath?   Or are you at a respectable beauty parlor getting facials and foot massages?

[BaileyB]

1 hour ago, basil67 said:

Can you define 'spa'?

Or, is it a “couples” massage. In which case, it would definitely cross the line.
 

3 hours ago, realkenny1742 said:

She’s married, so I don’t want to overstep any boundaries

I think you give her the package and suggest that she take her husband or a friend.

You are playing with fire here. 

[Gaeta]

Completely unacceptable. 

Give it to her to use with her husband. 

If a colleague of my bf offered him the same l would rip her head off.

 

[smackie9]

Offer it to her and her husband.