lemonicetea Posted November 3 Share Posted November 3 I saw on Hinge that somebody liked my profile. It is rare for somebody with a filled out profile to like mine (I ignore empty profiles because they are probably scammers and/or people who just don’t care). As I looked through his profile he mentioned that the key to dating him is having patience because he has autism and doesn’t pick up on social cues that much. I know I probably sound like a horrible person, but I would much rather not have to work with autism in a relationship. I understand that not everybody with autism is like this, but I have had people in my life use autism as an excuse for abuse. I also fear that my emotional needs would not be met. Again, I mean no disrespect to people who are on the spectrum. On the other hand, I get that beggars can’t be choosers and it never hurts to say “hi” to somebody. Do you think it would be worth it to strike up a conversation with him? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted November 3 Share Posted November 3 It's just talking for now. You may not like him at all, he may not like you, so why project yourself in a relationship already. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted November 3 Share Posted November 3 (edited) Well you’ve just said that you’d rather not have to work with autism in a relationship … so why would you bother saying hi? (Not that there’s anything wrong with it but you’ve said yourself you’d rather not) also… surely your not a beggar? come on now… straighten that crown queen Edited November 3 by Georgia46 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted November 3 Share Posted November 3 2 hours ago, lemonicetea said: On the other hand, I get that beggars can’t be choosers "Beggars can't be choosers" is not a good motto for dating. It's better to remain single than to lower your standards or to date people you really don't want to be dating or aren't sure about. Desperation is not a good look. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 3 Share Posted November 3 If getting likes on your profile is rare, then I suggest it's time to rethink your photos and blurb 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 3 Share Posted November 3 2 hours ago, lemonicetea said: Do you think it would be worth it to strike up a conversation with him? Personally, I wouldn’t. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 3 Share Posted November 3 If you strike up a conversation with him, he's likely to think you're interested. Don't go leading him on Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 5 Share Posted November 5 On 11/3/2024 at 12:50 PM, lemonicetea said: Do you think it would be worth it to strike up a conversation with him? No. That wouldn't be fair to him and would be a waste of your time. Stick to your original thoughts. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted November 5 Share Posted November 5 It sounds like your thoughts are coming from a place of fear.. You mentioned people with autism in the past being abusive to you so you fear the same thing happening again with someone you don’t know. If your feelings towards this are so strong then pass. But overall wouldn’t you want to heal your own trauma and the past abuse and move past this? Why carry that with you. Just putting this out there. You don’t have to talk or meet this guy. But whatever happened needs to heal. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 5 Share Posted November 5 If you already have preconceived notions about people with autism, I don't see any point in starting a conversation with a person with autism on a dating site. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted November 8 Share Posted November 8 On 11/3/2024 at 12:50 PM, lemonicetea said: I get that beggars can’t be choosers Ewww. I'd ditch this mentality. Choosers CAN be choosers. Skip people who don't inspire you, and hold out for someone who does. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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