One sided love

[Lunar_Outpost]

I have been emotionally attached to a girl since 2016 (Very little interaction so far, the last interaction was in 2016). She was so humble, caring, beautiful, and talented, that I made her the perfect definition of a woman in my mind. She was so polite in college that people were afraid of her politeness, thinking that she might react badly if they said something wrong. She was also pretty introverted. 
Also, I was too introverted and had low self-esteem during that time, therefore I never had the courage to go and confess to her. I was also afraid of her politeness. If something went wrong, I would have been restricted from graduating college. I was also skinny and bad-looking during that time, considering her other well-wishers. 
Somehow, I got extroverted during 2021-22. 

She really did not know , that someone like me existed,  who feels for her, until now. I kind of made a mistake in this regard. 

Let me clarify our current state, both of us are graduates from different universities, and working professionals in their respective fields.

Mistake: I have confessed to her with a big paragraph from an anonymous Facebook Profile on her DM. She replied that she was overwhelmed with such appreciation. And asked politely if it was possible to reveal the identity. 
Also If I feel uncomfortable, I do not need to go for the reveal, she said. 

My point is, I really do not understand whether it is an obsession or one-sided love.
Then again, won't it be a dumb idea, to reveal the identity after 8 years?
What if she reacts to that badly?
What if she feels insecure, thinking that I have stalked her for 8 years? (I had no intentions whatsoever to show-up Infront of her like a desperate guy, I respect her privacy)

I have not known her for a long time, I do not know her family details, what her parents do, and also I don't have any idea of her thoughts and perspective around the world. But somehow, she seems like the vibe-matching type, I have never seen her after 2017, just saw her grow in her career on social profiles. Never texted after 2016. 

I have two options, I have delivered my message regarding my feelings for her, so I may be happy, that she read it and praised it. Then try to forget her existence. 
Two, I may reveal my identity and stay prepared for prospective consequences. 
no third option is poping up right now. 

If things go sideways, I think that will impact my professional life. That is the main dealbreaker for not confessing to her in the past. So, as I did it anonymously, what should I do now? I am puzzled. 

What if she thinks I am a bad person and exploits everything by sharing the scenario with the college group? Although I mentioned in that confession paragraph, about the insecurities which triggered me not to confess in the past days. 

I do not want to carry on the feelings like this, also she won't talk in that anonymous account, I feel the insecurity of the consequences that may occur. 

What should I do?
Any advice, If I approach, how should I?

I have never been in a relationship before. I do not understand female sentiments that much. 

 

[basil67]

If you weren't prepared to be honest about your identity, why did you send the message in the first place?    Such a foolish thing to do

[ShyViolet]

15 hours ago, Lunar_Outpost said:

My point is, I really do not understand whether it is an obsession or one-sided love.

This is not "love" at all.  You do not "love" someone who you haven't even had any interactions with in 8 years.  It sounds like you don't even know that much about her.  I know you say you have no experience in relationships, and it shows.  This is not what love is.

Sending a facebook DM from an anonymous account was a creepy thing to do and not a normal way to strike up a dialogue with someone.  If you weren't comfortable contacting her like a normal person with your identity known, you shouldn't have tried to contact her at all.  

[glows]

Why do you feel it will impact your career negatively? I’m puzzled by this.

Actually… She appears to have a rather stellar track record of reacting politely. Even to the creepy dm you sent. 

I’m then thrown back to your earlier comment that you were afraid of her politeness which seems more like severe social anxiety. Can you clarify the above?

[Leihla_B]

Sorry, but I'm always icked out by the idea that a 'confession' is necessary or appropriate when someone forms a crush from afar. It's creepy and has nothing to do with the person you've created a fantasy about in your own head.

I'd skip pursuit and learn how to outgrow your crush in the same manner that people need to outgrow celebrity crushes or other inappropriate crushes.

 

Edited November 8 by Leihla_B