Tarquin Posted November 5 Share Posted November 5 Hi, I've started to notice that my gf has a tendency to find out everything especially financial, about someone we might meet. Anybody, restaurant owner, shop owner etc, it might be the next day, she'll say " yes, his brother put the money up and he lives in a big house over in....." She has ADHD and autism which she masks. Am I wrong in being suspicious? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 5 Share Posted November 5 I'm confused. It sounds like she's a gossip, which might not be everyone's cup of tea... But you seem to be implying something more than that. What exactly are you concerned about? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted November 5 Share Posted November 5 Some people talk like that if brought up a certain way. If I had to guess she was around others most of her life who focus on the material. It’s what she notices first in terms of details 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted November 6 Share Posted November 6 Suspicious of what? Some people are like that for different reasons. She may not have noticed she does that. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tarquin Posted November 7 Author Share Posted November 7 Just that it's only ever men, never a woman. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted November 7 Share Posted November 7 7 minutes ago, Tarquin said: Just that it's only ever men, never a woman. But l still don't get it, should you be suspicious of what? You think she's looking to replace you? It's not a very good plan as she reports everything back to you. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted November 7 Share Posted November 7 3 hours ago, Tarquin said: Just that it's only ever men, never a woman. Maybe hasn’t been around women in business or women who are breadwinners and providers. Sad. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tarquin Posted November 7 Author Share Posted November 7 On 11/5/2024 at 10:32 PM, Els said: I'm confused. It sounds like she's a gossip, which might not be everyone's cup of tea... But you seem to be implying something more than that. What exactly are you concerned about? 10 hours ago, Gaeta said: But l still don't get it, should you be suspicious of what? You think she's looking to replace you? It's not a very good plan as she reports everything back to you. I just thought it a little odd that's all. I get being inquisitive, but I'd have thought it would be across the board, if that's your nature, regardless of gender. Maybe I'm the odd one, it's not a big thing, just a thought. Thanks Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tarquin Posted November 7 Author Share Posted November 7 7 hours ago, glows said: Maybe hasn’t been around women in business or women who are breadwinners and providers. Sad. Oh no, she comes from a family that all have businesses, we know/meet lots of people, it's just she's only inquisitive with the males🤷🏻♂️ thanks Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tarquin Posted November 7 Author Share Posted November 7 10 hours ago, Gaeta said: But l still don't get it, should you be suspicious of what? You think she's looking to replace you? It's not a very good plan as she reports everything back to you. I just found it odd, if you're inquisitive in your nature then I'd have thought everyone would be interesting 🤷🏻♂️ thanks Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tarquin Posted November 7 Author Share Posted November 7 On 11/5/2024 at 11:12 PM, glows said: Some people talk like that if brought up a certain way. If I had to guess she was around others most of her life who focus on the material. It’s what she notices first in terms of details Yes, she has, thanks for your input Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Tarquin Posted November 7 Author Share Posted November 7 On 11/6/2024 at 12:58 AM, Gaeta said: Suspicious of what? Some people are like that for different reasons. She may not have noticed she does that. Oh 100% she doesn't realise she's selective, It just stood out to me that's all. Thanks for your input Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted Friday at 06:54 PM Share Posted Friday at 06:54 PM I'd simply ask her about this. I'd be curious rather than accusatory. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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