Is this really a thing. 🤔

[SingleFather]

My fiancé got upset the other day for having a 3 way conversation with her and another woman in the nail salon.  The conversation seemed very harmless to me and didn't set of any alarms in terms of the other woman flirting with me.  My fiancé said that anytime a woman speaks to me, I should ignore them, point the conversation back to my fiancé, or just walk away.  My partner also said that any woman that speaks to me, while she is there, is simply trying to cause problems in our relationship. I thought she was crazy and told her I have never heard of this being a thing.

As we discussed this, she further stated that I should never look at another woman (i.e. look down or away when one approaches).  I should also never help another woman out if she dropped something, needs a door opened, etc.

I told her, in the future, I would politely dismiss the person and avoid any future conversation.  However, she is adamant that I should respond more rudely by walking away or ignoring them completely.  I was raised to be polite to people and being rude just doesn't sit well with me.  It seems like she is asking me to go against my core belief as a person to be kind to others.  This world is rude enough and no need to add to the chaos.

Is she overreacting or am I just out of the loop?

 

[basil67]

She's stark raving mad!   How did you get to the point of being engaged to her without knowing that she's a control freak?

[BaileyB]

Why in the world are you dating such a controlling and disrespectful woman? 

 

[Gebidozo]

She’s a possessive, jealous control freak. Please get out of this relationship before you get emotionally abused. 

[ExpatInItaly]

This is not "a thing."

This is a crazy woman that you need to dump. Make that "a thing."

[NuevoYorko]

Is this the first time you've been made aware of her strange rules?   I'm wondering why you've chosen to marry somebody who wants to control you as if you were a robot.  Sounds miserable.

[Leihla_B]

And you agreed to this? It's nuts. You've just opened the door to a cray-cray that will only escalate, it never gets better.

I'd tell GF that I've rethought this, and I'm not going to comply with her demands. She can take that to mean anything she wants, but I'm not going to play.

I'd reconsider this relationship.

[ShyViolet]

She is being irrational, crazy and controlling.  And the fact that you're caving in to it and accommodating it is equally concerning.  There is something wrong with your fiance and this is not normal behavior in a relationship.  You shouldn't be agreeing to this.

[NuevoYorko]

Not to mention that if your username means what it appears to, you are a parent.   Spare your child, please.