RandallHare Posted November 14 Share Posted November 14 I like her. She's cute, she's smart, and she's an achiever. She's a doctor and I'm a lawyer. I like everything about her and we like the same things from Studio Ghibli to saxophone to jazz. And she smells soooo damn good. But she's always busy. She's a doctor after all. I'm not sure if I have a chance with her but she chats with me every now and then when she's not busy. How do I ask her out? And how do I convince her to enter into a relationship with me? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted November 14 Share Posted November 14 Well you don't try to convince her to enter a relationship immediately. What you do is during one of these times when you are chatting just bring up having dinner together at some point when she is available. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14 Share Posted November 14 2 hours ago, RandallHare said: How do I ask her out? And how do I convince her to enter into a relationship with me? No, this isn't the right mindset. Start by asking her out, yes. But you can't convince someone to be with you. You go out, get a feel for each other, see if there is chemistry and compatibility. You see each other more, get to know each other, and then you will understand if she likes you enough (and if you like her enough) to establish a relationship. If you feel compelled to convince someone to date you, well, it means the other person is not that interested and you should take a hint and move along. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted November 14 Share Posted November 14 5 hours ago, RandallHare said: How do I ask her out? Depends on the context. How do you know her? Via mutual friends, or at work, etc? Quote And how do I convince her to enter into a relationship with me? You don't have to (and shouldn't). If you ask her out and she decides she likes you, you two will go out for another date. And another, and another. Eventually one of you will bring up the relationship talk, but this isn't the time. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted November 14 Share Posted November 14 8 hours ago, RandallHare said: I like her. She's cute, she's smart, and she's an achiever. She's a doctor and I'm a lawyer. I like everything about her and we like the same things from Studio Ghibli to saxophone to jazz. And she smells soooo damn good. But she's always busy. She's a doctor after all. I'm not sure if I have a chance with her but she chats with me every now and then when she's not busy. How do I ask her out? And how do I convince her to enter into a relationship with me? You need to ask her out on a date. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 14 Share Posted November 14 The first thing you do is slide into the conversation ask her if she's single/available/ seeing anyone. If she is single then you just ask her out. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted November 15 Share Posted November 15 12 hours ago, RandallHare said: How do I ask her out? Tell her you enjoy speaking with her, and ask if you can take her to lunch or dinner. Quote And how do I convince her to enter into a relationship with me? Don't do this. It's overkill, and she will run. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted November 15 Share Posted November 15 (edited) 15 hours ago, RandallHare said: How do I ask her out? And how do I convince her to enter into a relationship with me? You don’t convince her to do anything. The choice of this word is a bit troubling, to tell you the truth. Also, obviously it’s way too early to think about a relationship at this stage. As for asking her out, what exactly prevents you from doing that? Just ask her out for a dinner. Initiate a conversation, take it from there. See if you begin to click romantically, if there is attraction, chemistry in the air. You have common interests, that’s already a good sign. Just please don’t mention relationships or how cool it would be for a doctor and a lawyer to be together. That kind of talk will surely scare her away. Edited November 15 by Gebidozo Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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