EEEK I dont get it!

[Deirdre]

It has been months since I worked in this new company, and got to know this rather fine guy. Initially his friend will always tease him whenever he spoke to me, and I thought it might just be friendly teasing - after all my work environment is male dominated. But then he was always smiling at me, and greeted me "beautiful" - I took that as a casual greeting until I noticed he never call other girls that. He's the kind of guy who will open the door for you, pull your chair, help carry your stuff. Wanting to know him better, I asked for his number.

 

The next day was an off day so I sms him randomly; he replied and asked me out. When I did not respond (I was not checking my mobile) he called. So I agreed and we went out.

 

But what happened was that I notice his friend (also colleague) was changing his teasings abit, this time involving me. I really do not know what to make of it, but he never deny nor does he acknowledge it, and only grinned at me. He in turn loves to tease me, calling me silly.....etc (although he told me he really thinks I'm smart, and an admirable personality which he found it rare in most girls - "I'm ultra patient and barely lost temper") I also notice he does not do that to other girls - at least never in my presense. If a pretty girl passed by I might jokingly asked him if he think shes cute and if shes really pretty he would say "not my type" and if shes not that cute he would say "not as cute as you".

 

And because he has always referred to himself as a friend I thought I would treat him like I would treat a typical male friend - kidding about stuff and all, but he seemed particularly sensitive - if another girl was in the picture. He also never complimented other girls (not many girls around to begin with) in my presense and I begin to wonder if its just a case of his male chivalrous manners at work.

 

So I'm sorta confused if he really meant he just wanted to be my friend or he actually likes me and for some reason refuses to admit it? In fact we went out quite a few times because I thought theres really nothing unusual to go out with a friend - and that we hit off really well it seemed right. (Except that he always insist on paying....so I quit protesting and let him handle the bills)

 

Another time I thanked him for the treat and he smiled saying he should be the one thanking me for accepting his treat. So I went, "No biggie, you're paying so why not?" He laughed and said that he would not accept a treat from a person he does not like. I left it at that. (I wondered if he was hinting at something)

 

During Christmas he won a prize that he has no need for and gave it to me, although another friend said he wanted it too he replied, "Even if I want to give it away I wouldn't be giving it to you." And instead passed it to me instead. His friend seemed to interpret that as "something else" and smiled knowingly.

 

And if I had problems I can confide in him, and he is a rather good listener, but is he just a really good friend - as he claimed (he is also quick to define the relationship as friendship and that he felt that I'm a really sweet girl and just wish I will always be happy) or like his friend has always suggested?!

 

Lets just say in the history of my dating scene guys are always quick to let you know they intend it to be a date, and that they are looking for romantic partners so I do not know what to make of it. Casual male friends although can be very dependable simply does not tease me like he does (and some of his teasings sounded more like flirtations - and I noted he does not do it to other girls around)

 

Just like to hear some opinions. (Don't ask me to ask him - he already say he's a friend; without me asking though.)

[Lucasarts]

yes he likes you more then as a friend (the friend that is) and he is waiting for his chance to ask you out...

 

but you seem more interested in this guy then you do the first guy that asked you out...interesting...