basil67 Posted 7 hours ago Share Posted 7 hours ago (edited) 6 minutes ago, Dazedandconfused86 said: Serious question then. How come I know couples that have been dating for years but haven’t gotten married? Is marriage starting to essentially be phased out as a non-essential? Back again.....I've been with my partner for 30 odd years, defacto, two kids, own a house and two birds. Our laws cover defacto couples, so marriage wasn't required for us. That said, our daughter and her boyfriend and talking about getting engaged, so marriage is not dead Edited 7 hours ago by basil67 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted 7 hours ago Share Posted 7 hours ago 5 minutes ago, Dazedandconfused86 said: Interesting, when I was in high school back in 2001 and 17-18 nobody was having sex. People dated for years but never did more than make out. I think I’m still living in the older times. I wonder where your high school was… in my high school, many people lost their virginity before the age of 18. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted 7 hours ago Share Posted 7 hours ago 2 minutes ago, Dazedandconfused86 said: Serious question then. How come I know couples that have been dating for years but haven’t gotten married? Is marriage starting to essentially be phased out as a non-essential? I don't know where you are from. I know marriage is still important for most Americans. I am French Canadian and we don't marry anymore. We still are in relationship and have homes and children together, we just don't marry. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted 6 hours ago Share Posted 6 hours ago 8 minutes ago, Dazedandconfused86 said: I’ve always thought women in general thought of men to be horn dogs that want only 1 thing and that 1 thing needs to be earned. It’s just how I was raised, but thanks for the replies. I might be a bit more screwed up than I thought. It’s okay, sometimes it takes an effort to get rid of some pre-conceived notions. The whole concept of “earning sex” is gravely outdated, objectifying, and demeaning to both genders. “Horn dog” shouldn’t be a gender-dependent term. Some people, men and women, have higher libido, while others, men and women, have lower libido. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted 6 hours ago Share Posted 6 hours ago 25 minutes ago, Dazedandconfused86 said: I think I’m still living in the older times. I think you're living in times which never existed. My grandmother's diary in 1939 illuded to the premarital sex going on then. My other grandmother got married in the 1920's because she was pregnant at 19. Fooling around is nothing new Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dazedandconfused86 Posted 4 hours ago Author Share Posted 4 hours ago 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: I don't know where you are from. I know marriage is still important for most Americans. I am French Canadian and we don't marry anymore. We still are in relationship and have homes and children together, we just don't marry. I’m from rural Michigan. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dazedandconfused86 Posted 4 hours ago Author Share Posted 4 hours ago 1 hour ago, basil67 said: I think you're living in times which never existed. My grandmother's diary in 1939 illuded to the premarital sex going on then. My other grandmother got married in the 1920's because she was pregnant at 19. Fooling around is nothing new I really appreciate the feedback. I was just raised to believe women look at men as wanting only 1 thing and that it should be earned and never given away. The more I think about this situation and my past relationships I might simply just be happier to be single and focus on my career. I don’t have any interest in games with relation to dating. It’s just too much effort I think. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dazedandconfused86 Posted 4 hours ago Author Share Posted 4 hours ago 2 hours ago, Gebidozo said: It’s okay, sometimes it takes an effort to get rid of some pre-conceived notions. The whole concept of “earning sex” is gravely outdated, objectifying, and demeaning to both genders. “Horn dog” shouldn’t be a gender-dependent term. Some people, men and women, have higher libido, while others, men and women, have lower libido. Honestly, the more I think about it and the games required to date. I just don’t have the time. I have a very good career that keeps me focused and am just starting to see dating as a hassle. I don’t have time to go out to “events”, and don’t “club”. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted 4 hours ago Share Posted 4 hours ago (edited) 37 minutes ago, Dazedandconfused86 said: I don’t have time to go out to “events”, and don’t “club”. Yeah, you might be too old for clubbing, but no social life? You never have fun with friends? All work and no play..... Edited 4 hours ago by basil67 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dazedandconfused86 Posted 4 hours ago Author Share Posted 4 hours ago 7 minutes ago, basil67 said: Yeah, you might be too old for clubbing, but no social life? You never have fun with friends? All work and no play..... Oh I absolutely get together with friends. That’s how I met my current girlfriend. Other than that, I really don’t have much time for anything else. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted 3 hours ago Share Posted 3 hours ago 49 minutes ago, Dazedandconfused86 said: Oh I absolutely get together with friends. That’s how I met my current girlfriend. Other than that, I really don’t have much time for anything else. You may also meet a new girlfriend through friends Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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