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Long distance feeling one sided - do I take a wait and see approach here?


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Some people have been very discombobulated by having to work "hybrid" remotely, too. I'm that way.   It's common.  For some of us it's a big challenge to shift gears and be working from home, or someone else's home, and then at the workplace, all at kind of random intervals.   

It's not necessarily a piece of cake and something that a guy would "obviously" offer to do to prove his love.  Not if it throws him off.  

This is not going to be a period of time when the boyfriend will be at his best when it comes to keeping his relationship intentions at the fore.   I'm afraid that it will be up to the OP to take most of the burden of travel and making things happen, relationship-wise, if she wants to keep going.   Unfortunately, they didn't make any future plans in advance of this situation.  So it seems like she will just have to go on faith and / or enjoy the good times when they can happen, if she chooses to hang in there.   

 

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Everything worked out with the Christmas trip. I thought about it and realized he was doing everything he could to see me. I stayed patient and it got resolved, so we'll be together for a week before Christmas.

For the holidays I think we both need quality relaxation time together but in January I'll initiate a plan for where things are going on. We had a loose plan but now the lack of having one priority as a couple is making me feel a bit rootless.

Thanks for the advice all.

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1 hour ago, S2B said:

Where is he spending the week between Christmas and new year? Generally - teaching staff has off that week.

As a professor I suspect that he will be prepping for his classes. You won't know, but academics don't really get to put their feet up for very long as they teach cutting edge, rather from history.

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3 hours ago, S2B said:

Where is he spending the week between Christmas and new year? Generally - teaching staff has off that week.

He will be with his family that week - they live in another country and it will be the first time he's been home since last Christmas.

Hopefully next year we can spend more of that period together. His parents have invited me over next year, so we'll see. He plans to come here again after new year.

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