Going to turn 30 and still never had a serious relationship

[PeachPalm1]

Even in high school, I never once got asked out. I thought as an adult things would be different. I don’t know how things will ever change?

 

I started dating someone when I was 18 back at home and we both started the same university coincidentally. Then one night I introduced him to my course mates out at a meal and then he ended up dating my course mate. 😞 he had never taken me on dates or anything

 

The rest of university was the same, putting myself out there and no one wanting me. All my friends finding their forever partners at university

 

When I was 25, met a first boyfriend. It was easy and fun and I felt amazed to have someone to call my boyfriend.he was my first love but even he never took me on a romantic date. He dumped me and told me he never fell in love with me. My mum still goes on about how much she liked him, and misses him and so do I really. I don’t know why he didn’t love me and why I am so unlucky 

 

And ever since no one has come along.

 

A brief dating situation last year. I met a man who I really clicked with, he kept even telling me he felt we really connected and we were really similar. Compatibility wise we were such a match too. but I was kept at arms length and if I didn’t plan dates, they wouldn’t happen. And then he told me he didn’t see me in a romantic way and only as a friend. Like how?????

 

My male housemates, they downloaded dating app. Saw some girls on there, messaged them and now they have girlfriends they treat as queens. Me on the other hand, I only get men who are half interested and still don’t plan dates. Or mainly men message me on dating apps, I reply and then it’s just silence from them. What’s more I have a good profile and I’m quite pretty

 

I’m tired of it, no one understands why I can’t get dates. Even when I go get a date, they never offer to pay. And I wonder what is wrong with me

 

More recently, I finally got asked out organically. It was new and exciting to me. But he was too agressive about the physical side, on the first date sucking my breast in the car which was making me uncomfortable. I did sleep with him on the second date mainly as I am 28 and haven’t really ever had a sex life and I want to learn that, but he left immediately and never spoke to me again. I did have suspicious he actually might have a girlfriend 

 

I don’t know what’s wrong with me. Men never approach me. I signal to them with body language that I am interested in being approached. I’m told I’m pretty too

[Gebidozo]

It’s not the first time that you post this content here.

I wonder whether you actually read what people were telling you and did something to follow those advices. It seems that nothing has changed.

As long as you keep complaining, your attitude will continue to turn off independent, mature men.

As long as you keep being desperate for a relationship, wanting just anyone to be with, you’ll be attracting dubious, weird, unreliable men.

[ExpatInItaly]

6 hours ago, PeachPalm1 said:

finally got asked out organically. It was new and exciting to me. But he was too agressive about the physical side, on the first date sucking my breast in the car which was making me uncomfortable. I did sleep with him on the second date mainly as I am 28 and haven’t really ever had a sex life and I want to learn that, but he left immediately and never spoke to me again.

Why did you sleep with him after he made you uncomfortable on the very first date? That was your cue to run, not to get in bed with him. 

You need to learn to weed out bad apples and not pin hopes on them to be anything other than what they show you they are. He showed you on the first date what he was all about. You igmored that huge red flag. 

[smackie9]

Go get yourself a make over..hair, makeup, clothing, hit the gym. Men a visual creatures...attractiveness/confidence gets your foot in the door.

[NuevoYorko]

What are your other types of relationships like?  Do you have close friends?  Any friends you've known for many years?  How about your family?   

[PeachPalm1]

55 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

Go get yourself a make over..hair, makeup, clothing, hit the gym. Men a visual creatures...attractiveness/confidence gets your foot in the door.

I literally care so much about my appearance there’s nothing else I can do other than lip fillers and stuff. I change up my hair all the time, I’m very into my fitness etc. 

[basil67]

45 minutes ago, PeachPalm1 said:

I literally care so much about my appearance there’s nothing else I can do other than lip fillers and stuff.

This could be part of your problem.   The sheer level of vanity required to be doing this stuff would be off putting.   Then if you've passed the point between just a tiny touch of enhancement into looking ridiculous, you're not going to get much attention from men.   

What if you go back to being a normal woman?