Going to turn 30 and still never had a serious relationship

[Trail Blazer]

So many things are not adding up here.  I can't quite put my finger on it, but if you were everything you claim to be in response to the feedback given, then there should be no way you'd be having this much trouble getting a date.

[Versacehottie]

On 12/4/2024 at 1:51 PM, PeachPalm1 said:

me and him are very similar in personality. If you know about myers briggs, me and him are both intjs.

hi, just using this one example of poor grammar which would indicate a lot of things as I mentioned before.  This is not simply a matter of being in a hurry or lazy with your posts (i am all the time but I would never say "me and him" repeatedly, which indicates level of education, aspiration, intelligence and effort.). "Me and him" are all over many of your posts as well as many other examples. Speech & communication style ARE how you convey to someone who you are & what you'd be like. 

Of all the things I wrote about, you chose to be defensive on grammar rather than take in the spirit of the entire post and self-reflect so that you can get the results you want. That also is indicative of someone who operates surface level and typically fails to produce a spark with anyone (which, for the record, can happen whether regardless of what your grammar & speech patterns are)...I would say if you have an aim that is much higher though than you actually provide when you are dealing with potential dates then they will quickly turn off. "hey how are you" is about as surface and boring as it gets, just saying. While apps can be tough, you would get SOME traction if your looks were top notch. Not trying to shame you or make you feel bad--just bring you down to earth so you can get some results. As someone said, you would be getting hit on while anywhere doing your daily life if you were as good looking and charismatic as you claim. Something is off. 

*fyi creating multiple accounts on here is another indication that you aren't honest with us/yourself. just saying...

Edited December 7 by Versacehottie

[Alpacalia]

21 hours ago, PeachPalm1 said:

Because they all come across that way, I get approached in a very sexually aggressive way. Comment on my bum or my figure. And it happens all the time when I go out. I am looking for someone who isn’t so sexually forward 

Are your pictures or how you dress revealing?

Don't get me wrong, I don't think if a woman dresses a certain way she is "asking for it" but there definitely are times clothing choices attract unwanted attention.

[NuevoYorko]

Ok so let's try this:  Are there any ways that YOU can think of that might be off-putting to other people, including men?  

I'm including other people since in some threads you've said that you have NO friends because ALL your friends have "found their person" and now have no time.  Though then, in other cases, you talk about ALL your friends and the advice and opinions that they are giving you.

So I really have no idea whether you have friends or not.  But we might as well include it, in case you really do not have any.  If that's the case, there are reasons for it besides "finding their person," though of course people who are in a relationship or have a family are often less active socially than singles might be.

[stillafool]

On 12/4/2024 at 3:59 PM, PeachPalm1 said:

Now he’s settled down with a woman who has toddlers with her ex partner.

Did he tell you this and are you guys still in touch?

[stillafool]

On 12/4/2024 at 4:34 PM, basil67 said:

His travels were already booked before me met me though so how was I to know he not interested.

No matter how busy men are they always find time to be with the woman they want.  So don't ever fall for the "too busy" line.  He had to have spent time with the lady with the toddlers for her to now be his girlfriend with 2 kids in tow.

[stillafool]

On 12/4/2024 at 5:25 PM, PeachPalm1 said:

I get asked out a lot like in the supermarket and things like that, not by men I deem good partners as they are all after my looks but I hope a lovely normal man comes along soon. Perhaps I have just had bad luck

How do you know that these men are just all about your looks and nothing more?  Where else besides the supermarket do you get asked out?

[NuevoYorko]

People generally are initially attracted by looks.  What else do they have to go by, if they don't know you?    It's what comes next that is meaningful.   When they start to engage with you, learn about your personality,  your sense of humor, your world view etc. - that's when people really get interested on a deeper level.