I told him I didn't want to talk to him again. Why won't he just unfriend me?

[FemaleArcher]

46 minutes ago, basil67 said:

There is absolutely nothing in his behaviour which would justify your reaction.   If the person you're dating has good self esteem, they will never come back after this.

Have you found any anger management therapy places yet?

But in the above post you said he may come back into my life. And now you're saying he will never come back which one is it? So I guess he's just going to remain my friend on social media and not talk to me ever again ok I got it. We've done a lot more than just dating though. But honestly I don't think anyone can predict what will happen between us. He didn't have to say anything at all but he did. I'm just going to give it some time and see what happens thanks.

 

Nothing in his behavior that would justify my reaction? But he said he knew it seemed shady that he cancelled so what is that saying? I mean I was upset because I was looking forward to seeing him and he knew this. I have other options so if he really wants to end things with me after some of the things we've done with each other than ok I guess.

Edited December 3 by FemaleArcher

[basil67]

1 hour ago, FemaleArcher said:

But in the above post you said he may come back into my life. And now you're saying he will never come back which one is it? So I guess he's just going to remain my friend on social media and not talk to me ever again ok I got it. We've done a lot more than just dating though. But honestly I don't think anyone can predict what will happen between us. He didn't have to say anything at all but he did. I'm just going to give it some time and see what happens thanks.

No, I said that if he's got good self esteem he will never come back.   By the same token, if he's a fool, he may come back.   I've been with my partner for over thirty years and while we've gotten snippy and had a few things go badly, but we've never spoken to each other like you spoke to him.

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Nothing in his behavior that would justify my reaction? But he said he knew it seemed shady that he cancelled so what is that saying? I mean I was upset because I was looking forward to seeing him and he knew this. I have other options so if he really wants to end things with me after some of the things we've done with each other than ok I guess.

It's normal to be upset or confused with what was going on it certainly warranted a conversation.  But it didn't justify having an explosive breakup when you don't mean it.  The only time that "I don't want to talk to you again" is acceptable is when you're actually breaking up with a guy and never want to talk to them again ever.  Like when you'd hide if you saw them coming your way.  

I'm wondering if you came from a home where your parents were toxic to each other and yelling stuff like this was role modelled to you, and so now you think it's normal and forgivable.  

Edited December 3 by basil67

[FemaleArcher]

20 minutes ago, basil67 said:

No, I said that if he's got good self esteem he will never come back.   By the same token, if he's a fool, he may come back.   I've been with my partner for over thirty years and while we've gotten snippy and had a few things go badly, but we've never spoken to each other like you spoke to him.

It's normal to be upset or confused with what was going on it certainly warranted a conversation.  But it didn't justify having an explosive breakup when you don't mean it.  The only time that "I don't want to talk to you again" is acceptable is when you're actually breaking up with a guy and never want to talk to them again ever.  Like when you'd hide if you saw them coming your way.  

I'm wondering if you came from a home where your parents were toxic to each other and yelling stuff like this was role modelled to you, and so now you think it's normal and forgivable.  

Honestly, yes I did grow up in a toxic household but that's no excuse I realize that I did mess up. But I care about him a lot I want to be with him. I mean are you saying there is nothing that I can do to fix this? Why do you say if he's a fool? I'm never going to say that to him again. I thought he was lying to me and that he just didn't want to see me. 

Edited December 3 by FemaleArcher