Mamabear502 Posted Monday at 05:11 PM Share Posted Monday at 05:11 PM There is a guy I like. We are friends. He is 4 years younger than me. He said he isn't interested and is looking for someone younger than him. However whenever we see each other he acts totally different. He will actually look for me knowing my work schedule. I’m generally confused if he may have an interest in me. Twice he had his arm out for me to touch him. He is on some dating sites and hasn’t had a hit yet despite messaging several women. He also only had 1 relationship in his life and hasn’t been in one in 18 years. He never married and doesn’t have kids. I would love some advice on this. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted Monday at 05:19 PM Share Posted Monday at 05:19 PM No. A guy who has told you he is not interested actually IS NOT INTERESTED. Save yourself the heartache. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted Monday at 06:57 PM Share Posted Monday at 06:57 PM Have you actually told him your interested and he’s said back I’m looking for someone younger? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mamabear502 Posted Monday at 07:09 PM Author Share Posted Monday at 07:09 PM Yes. I asked him if he wanted to go out sometime. Just dinner, not like relationship thing. We went to Culver’s once. He said he would keep me in mind but isn’t looking right now because he has a lot going on in his personal life. Everyone keeps telling him to find a younger woman so he can have kids which is why he wants someone younger. He still lives with his parents, and his only relationship was back in high school about 18 years ago. He’s over 35 yrs old Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted Monday at 07:15 PM Share Posted Monday at 07:15 PM If you've tried and he has already told you he's not interested, I am not sure why you are asking this question. Maybe listen to what he has said. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Georgia46 Posted Monday at 08:57 PM Share Posted Monday at 08:57 PM 1 hour ago, Mamabear502 said: Yes. I asked him if he wanted to go out sometime. Just dinner, not like relationship thing. We went to Culver’s once. He said he would keep me in mind but isn’t looking right now because he has a lot going on in his personal life. Everyone keeps telling him to find a younger woman so he can have kids which is why he wants someone younger. He still lives with his parents, and his only relationship was back in high school about 18 years ago. He’s over 35 yrs old Ahhh sadly that sounds like he’s trying to tell you no but in a nice way *I’ll keep you in mind* I think I’d leave this one be. What about trying dating apps/ meeting other available people? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted Monday at 10:05 PM Share Posted Monday at 10:05 PM 4 hours ago, Mamabear502 said: He said he isn't interested and is looking for someone younger than him. When a man comes right out and tells you he isn't interested in you but looking for someone younger than him, what more do you need to know to determine he that he doesn't want you? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted Monday at 11:04 PM Share Posted Monday at 11:04 PM He's told you how he feels. Is there any reason you don't believe him? Perhaps he's your FWB or something? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted Tuesday at 06:38 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 06:38 PM 23 hours ago, Mamabear502 said: He still lives with his parents, and his only relationship was back in high school about 18 years ago. He’s over 35 yrs old Why would a woman about to turn 40 want to date a man like that? Please aim a little higher. No he's not interested. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted Tuesday at 06:52 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 06:52 PM If he's being touchy feely, he's looking for casual sex at most. He's said quite clearly that he doesn't want a relationship, so why don't you believe him? More importantly, as a 39yo woman, do you really even WANT to date a man who's living with his parents??? Like, I could see myself being okay with it when I was 18 or 21 or maybe even 24... But if you're in your 30s why on earth would you even want to do that? 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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