You can't win

[mortensorchid]

I restarted my diet just before thr pandemic of 2020, lost 30lbs and have more or less kept it off with a few fluxes here and there. Someone said I had / have cankles and I wasn't muscular enough (as in he could not see the definition through my skin like you do on models on their arms or 6 pack abs). I lost the extra weight and now he says I am just skinny not muscular. I said yes I am, feel me.

You can't win with some people.

[basil67]

If someone shames your body once, don't give them the chance to do it a second time

[Georgia46]

Who is he? 
to me it sounds like he likes you but is acting like an immature school boy … 

[basil67]

This business of giving opinions of your body....who does this clown think he is?  

[MsJayne]

On 11/30/2024 at 2:53 PM, mortensorchid said:

You can't win with some people.

I find it best not to even want to win with some people, it’s a waste of good energy😊.  I hope the individual criticising you is super-model material, and even if they are, they should still shut up. 

[NuevoYorko]

Why does this person feel entitled to share his opinion of your body with you?   Probably because you engage with him on the subject, as illustrated by you telling him that yes, you are muscular, and asking him to feel you.   

I suggest you stop doing that - with anybody, with a possible exception of your personal trainer, if you have one.   "Winning" in this situation is not meaningful - who cares what he thinks of your body.   He's obviously an a**.

Edited December 2, 2024 by NuevoYorko