Morboro Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 Hi I'm a 21yo male I've got a job I like and my own flat and a small group of good male friends (I have no female friends). Yet I feel uncomplete, I feel the urge to be in a loving relationship with a woman, I've never been in love before, in fact I've never had a proper relationship with a woman. I've been finding it very hard to meet woman most likely becuase I'm rather shy but I'm trying to work on my shyness. I'm looking for woman from the ages from 18 to 25. I don't really like the woman who go out to clubs/pubs, I feel a lot of them are rather tarty and not the kind of woman I would want to get into a relationship with. I've been told to try book clubs, but I'm not really a big story book reader, I find it hard to finish a book. I've also been told to try sporting activities and clubs, but I'm not really a sporty person. I've tried internet dating, but I'm realising it's just a waste of time, the girls I've met off it are not what I thought they were and I find it hard at times to get some of the woman to meet up offline, they prefer to chat on msn. I've tried the Internet dating scene for a year and it's just not what it's made out to be. I also prefer the chemisty of meeting somebody for the first time, without knowing anything about them. I'm not that good at approaching women out of the blue, I'm more comfortable in getting to know them in a mutual environment. What are some good ways to go about meeting woman? Thanks heaps! Link to post Share on other sites
sparticuss Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 The most successful pick up joint for long term and short term relationships is the shopping centre. Paticularly the supermarket. Not only the most successful, but more successful than all the rest put together. To be successful there you can't actually APPROACH women out of the blue. But you can TALK to them out of the blue. But make a point of talk to all of them. Married, single, age nine to ninety, the whole lot. You'll find youve got one when the talk just goes on and never stops. Link to post Share on other sites
Farnsworth Posted January 9, 2006 Share Posted January 9, 2006 I found when I was single, in a new town, no local friends and looking for nice women to date I joined a co-ed ski club. They did ski trips in the winter and had a softball team in the summer, and plyaed volleyball and had picnics and parties occaisionally. It's really perfect becuase there is always an activity to focus on so there is no other pressure. You get to know the people really well after a few times and you will meet datable women. Maybe not the girl of your dreams and all that but someone fun with similar interests. You can find clubs and such in the yellow pages and on the internet. Also the great thing about clubs, if it goes bad you can just stop attending. Give it a try. Worked for me. Link to post Share on other sites
jon200 Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 hey, i found mine on the internet there are a tonne of dating / chat sites with profiles etc.. spend some time coming up with a decent profile and go online with the intent of making friends... you won't be single long, and you'll make a lot of friends too.! Good luck Link to post Share on other sites
Mustang-man Posted January 26, 2006 Share Posted January 26, 2006 That sounds an awful lot like me Morboro! Except; i'm 22, don't have a job, don't have my own flat (still live with Mum) and don't really have any friends apart from the guys in the car club i'm in. Closest i've ever been to a girl was in dancing lessons during physical education classes early on in my High School years! I'm also not really keen on the girls who go to pubs etc, or ones which party, sleep around or anything like that. I have a modified car (turbo Nissan Skyline) but the girls who normally seem to hang around modified cars aren't really my type either i don't think. Internet dating websites haven't really helped me either (met two girls, both of which aren't my type or already have someone) so i always hope someone runs into me (not literally ) and initiates the conversation. Hasn't happened yet though. But anyway, i'm taking over your topic here. Sorry i don't have any advice for you. Link to post Share on other sites
Toronto Posted January 27, 2006 Share Posted January 27, 2006 Take some kind of class or join a community of some kind. Anything from volunteer work to dance classes to clubs to co-ed sports leagues. It's a great way to meet people because you'll be involved in something common. No forcing of conversation or out of the blue opening lines to strangers. I've met my last 6 boyfriends all through partnered-dance classes. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
realeve20 Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 Oh yes: I am not good at approaching men in public all so! Being blind I have been going to a club, but there are to many people in my mother's age group and that can be really fustrating and unfair to young people my age. I decided to try useing the internet for all most a year; I think I might have some luck meeting my soulmate , best friend and the yen of my yan . Link to post Share on other sites
Curmudgeon Posted January 28, 2006 Share Posted January 28, 2006 A very large percentage of partners meet at work. There you're with people who already have a common interest and a shared bond. That's where I met my wife. It makes opening conversation painless and easy. Link to post Share on other sites
realeve20 Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 ; you have to think before you leap, with good intentions and good motives. You have to dig deep no matter where and who how you met the love of your life. I am sorry clubs and bars are really not the best place to meet someone; besides everyone is usually drunk and what's so great about them anyway but people date each other in clubs anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
realeve20 Posted January 29, 2006 Share Posted January 29, 2006 Men and women meet each other in concerts, ball games, parades, church, recrational recreational ficilities, college, work and organizations and through blind dates. Some times blind dates are not really successful. I do not like them because people tend to focus on looks and what the other person wants not what you want and need in a mate. Link to post Share on other sites
7on Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 Yeah, I'd have to say I'm pretty much like Morboro, though in college and turning 21 next month. Anyway, you probably want to meet a girl who has the same interests as you so I recommend just doing what you like to do and going to places where you like to go. You'll eventually meet someone with your tastes. Link to post Share on other sites
Vincent Vega Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 the bookstore. make it a habit to go book shopping every once in a while, and don't just buy a bunch of sports books and crap like that. i don't think you will find a cute girl browsing joe montana biographies. Link to post Share on other sites
hyakku Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 I've got some advice. You may not like it. Too bad. Get over the shyness. Now. Don't say its hard, I know it is, but sitting around saying its hard isn't going to get you anywhere. Stop over generalizing women. Because they go to a club/bar does not make them a certain way. Many women don't even drink that go to clubs. This is really just an excuse. How can you not like a woman you have never talked to? All you have to go on is looks, and if she looks good then you can have nothing negative against her except some made up image that all girls who go to clubs are wild and out of control. Get good at approaching women out of the blue, thats the simple answer. Do you expect to be introduced to every women you see throuh someone else? Learn to be confident and relaxed, believe me, you don't have to have some "amazing pick up line", a simple Hi while do it just fine. Dating sites work well for some people, and its worked for many people in your position, its not that they aren't much help, its that you don't know exactly what the hell you're looking for, there's nothing wrong with that, but don't knock the sites they are there to help people (and make money of course but thats what all the world is about). You need to stop saying, "I don't like this, that, and another bit of this" and then going, so what's left? Let me tell you, NOTHING MUCH is left if you keep excluding all the places to meet women. You are 22 the clubs and bars are the spot for people to meet aroud your age. Book clubs and sports events are big too. What else do you want? You don't like the internet, you don't like book clubs, sports, clubs, bars, what else is left? The answer really is nothing. So get going, just go out and meet women EVERYWHERE. Learn what works and what doesn't. The only way you are going to find a woman is to date around and find out what you like and how to get it. Link to post Share on other sites
Vincent Vega Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 a good way to get over shyness is to get a job as a salesman somewhere Link to post Share on other sites
realeve20 Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 a good way to get over shyness is to get a job as a salesman somewhere hellow excuse me; there are book stores that have groups where people meet, like Barns and Novals and other libraries and you might find women that like to read sports magazines. I get the feeling you are not in to the noisy crowds and big crowds and that is okay. As long you stay connected to a group that does not involve peer pressure and disrespect. I tried clubs and bars to meet men; but, most of the time they are drinkin and they like to drink. I join support groups, social clubs, go to camps for adults and ministries. You do not have to go to clubs and bars if thats not your style. Unfortunately some are expensive; but, there are a few social clubs that are not so costly and possiblely free. Link to post Share on other sites
realeve20 Posted January 30, 2006 Share Posted January 30, 2006 a good way to get over shyness is to get a job as a salesman somewhere hellow excuse me; there are book stores that have groups where people meet, like Barns and Novals and other libraries and you might find women that like to read sports magazines. I get the feeling you are not in to the noisy crowds and big crowds and that is okay. As long you stay connected to a group that does not involve peer pressure and disrespect. I tried clubs and bars to meet men; but, most of the time they are drinkin and they like to drink. I join support groups, social clubs, go to camps for adults and ministries. You do not have to go to clubs and bars if thats not your style. Unfortunately some are expensive; but, there are a few social clubs that are not so costly and possiblely free. Link to post Share on other sites
caity2 Posted January 31, 2006 Share Posted January 31, 2006 really just the simple thing to do is not join something you arent really interested in where you feel like you have to find someone but just go do the things you enjoy, or if the things you enjoy dont envolve very many people or any for that matter, then just go do the regular things people do like grocery shopping, go to a restuarant, even just a walk around your neighborhood, someone is bound to approach you as long as you look happy and well.... approchable of course. also if you are shy and cant approach a woman, then approach a man. SERIOUSLY. not in a looking for a "partner" way, but just as friends. just so you can get used to meeting new people, slowly, just a little bit at a time go outside your comfort zone, and eventually you will be able to talk to anyone you wish. Link to post Share on other sites
realeve20 Posted February 2, 2006 Share Posted February 2, 2006 Oh" I wish some one told me that a long time ago; instead, of don't be shy, speak up and I won't bite you! There is a website that said some thing to that affect. I cant remember it off the top of my head; but, I found it using lycos search engine. Try tell explaining that to some folks and they will think your being stoke stockup stuck up, you are depressed and anti-social. God bless you all and take care. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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