Opps. Posted January 8, 2006 Share Posted January 8, 2006 We dated for a year, he lives 500 miles away, and we got to see eachother once a month, at most. I loved him with all my heart, he was my best friend and then a few weeks before our anniversary he dumped me, the same day i get an email telling me he cheated on me with at least three other girls. Naturally, this tore me to shreads. Anyways, durring the process of our breakup i was almost raped by another guy i know, whom i dated back in the day a few years back, and that and a bunch of other really horrible things happened, and since he was my best friend he was the one who talked me through all of this. now a couple months ago he asked me to make a deal with him, that if he could remain abstinant and not sleep, kiss, cuddle, hug, date anyone else until he coul d see me again, he would be ready to be my bf again--- now here is the catch, as long as i remain monogmas too...(witch i don't have a problem doing because I'm not intrested in anyone else at the moment) So we agreed, but now, it's less than a month until i see him (febuary third) and i'm really nervous, I wanna show him that i'm worth the relationship he gave up before, we want to work on our problems, not just cheating but other things too, because honestly i feel very strongly about him. although, i have confidence if it ended i would find love again. i just don't know what to do in the mean time about this situation... when i do see him, how to i make it fantastic, and make him fall in love with me all over again (He might still love me... but he never let's me know if i matter or not, i feel neglected often by him) Link to post Share on other sites
DaBurg33 Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 Listen, do yourself a favor and leave this guy. My girl just broke up with me after 3 1/2 years and i was the perfect bf. we lived very far apart. if this guy really loved you he would not put u on hold and have u not do anything. to me that means he wants to have some more fun with other girls and he sees that he has u on a string and is taking advantage of you. id give anything to be with my girl, and u deserve a guy that feels that way about you also, the feelings have to be mutual or it wont work, better now then after a few years. Link to post Share on other sites
cygny Posted January 17, 2006 Share Posted January 17, 2006 You are falling into a trap, girl! a big wide emotional trap! Don't do it! You don't have to prove yourself to him. He's the one who cheated, so he has alot to prove to you. He's already proved that he is untrustworthy. sure he was there for you but he has to do more than that. If you want to make yourself more attractive to him then tell him you don't want to be tied down to him but want to see other guys too. I am not joking! If you try to suck up to him this will only go downhill. let him "show" you that he is for real. Link to post Share on other sites
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