Jealous of husband laughing and joking with female coworker in our home

[Redarrow91]

My husband needs to work with coworkers to practice for an exam as part of his job. He has recently been going to a female coworkers home to do so. I should note she has a partner who he says is usually there. He goes to their house every weekend for a few hours.

They also practice during the week on video call and I'm used to them sticking to the practice, however I had been noticing abit more chat between them. She came over today and it was clear to see that they are quite comfortable with eachother. I stayed with them for a while then left the room. They were laughing, joking, spent a lot of time not talking about work.

I was ok with this, up until my husband opened the door for her to leave and joked something to her again and laughed. It sounded almost flirty. This really got me jealous and I tried hard not to look annoyed.

It's especially annoying because he doesn't want me to have male friends, and if I was being that jokey and friendly with another man he'd be annoyed.

I suppose there's nothing I could do but just wanted this off my chest.

[S2B]

Why is this in the dating area? 
I certainly hope you expect to tell him that the way he is participating with her is crossing a boundary and hurting your feelings!

speak up! If it makes you uncomfortable - say something to him about being inappropriate for a married man! 
he is disrespecting you right to your face!

[Gaeta]

1 hour ago, Redarrow91 said:

I suppose there's nothing I could do but just wanted this off my chest.

And you think that? Of course you can express how it makes you feel. 

Does your husband still make *you* laugh?

[Gebidozo]

If your husband’s behavior is making you uncomfortable, you should tell him.

Personally, I don’t think that making jokes and being a little bit flirty with other people is a dealbreaker. But if your husband feels the same way, why doesn’t he want you to have male friends?

That double standard of his is alarming.

[stillafool]

15 hours ago, Redarrow91 said:

It's especially annoying because he doesn't want me to have male friends, and if I was being that jokey and friendly with another man he'd be annoyed.

Why didn't you tell this to your husband instead of stewing in this jealousy?

[smackie9]

Talk to him. You need to communicate to him honestly, but also be fair about it. Tell him what you told us. 

[Els]

18 hours ago, Redarrow91 said:

he doesn't want me to have male friends

This is the biggest red flag in your post, IMO. Not just the double standard, but the fact that he thinks your friendship circles need to exclude 50% of the population?!? That's messed up.

Also, most people don't do exam practice 1 on 1 with a coworker in their house, just FYI. There are cafes, libraries, all sorts of places that are more appropriate for that, and also it's usually a group thing. So yeah, that's a red flag too, but not nearly as massive as the first one.

[Ami1uwant]

19 hours ago, Redarrow91 said:

My husband needs to work with coworkers to practice for an exam as part of his job. He has recently been going to a female coworkers home to do so. I should note she has a partner who he says is usually there. He goes to their house every weekend for a few hours.

They also practice during the week on video call and I'm used to them sticking to the practice, however I had been noticing abit more chat between them. She came over today and it was clear to see that they are quite comfortable with eachother. I stayed with them for a while then left the room. They were laughing, joking, spent a lot of time not talking about work.

I was ok with this, up until my husband opened the door for her to leave and joked something to her again and laughed. It sounded almost flirty. This really got me jealous and I tried hard not to look annoyed.

It's especially annoying because he doesn't want me to have male friends, and if I was being that jokey and friendly with another man he'd be annoyed.

I suppose there's nothing I could do but just wanted this off my chest.

Are u jealous because he doesn’t make you laugh?  Why do you think it’s flirtatious?  Sometimes the jokes have context of seeing/ being there that he can’t easily do with sharing a work story with you and you miss the context and don’t see the h7mor.

[MsJayne]

He’s probably just being friendly, but there’s something about a partner putting on their ‘best self’ for another woman that can leave you feeling unspecial and taken for granted. It can make you feel like sticking your fingers down your throat if it all gets too chummy and you start feeling excluded, and it can also make you look at your husband in a very unflattering light. You don’t sound annoyed by the woman herself, so are you sure it’s jealousy, or is it justifiable disdain for his hypocritical double standards?