She shows interest but mentions 'hanging out'

[secretsof1933]

We have gone on 2 dates and they have went well, and there has been interest shown. She has allowed me to put my hand on her leg, kiss her on cheek, she has held my hand, put her hand on my shoulder and rub it, get close to me in public and put her head on my chest. Yesterday she was super affectionate as we went Christmas shopping, we were both going out of town to same places and I mentioned we should just ride together.

 

We went had a lot of fun, we were both touching each other, having a great time. Dropped her off, kissed her on cheek. All that

 

Later on she sent me a text saying: i had fun today thanks for hanging out"

 

Now I shouldnt be seeing that as "friends hanging out" should I? It wasn't a "date" and she had mentioned earlier that day we are still on for this coming friday for a date. Am I over thinking it because she said "hanging out" Like I said all day she was super affectionate , when I put my hand on her leg when I was driving she moved closer to me

[Gaeta]

Yes you're over thinking. She said hangning out because it was a spur of the moment activity, not a planned date.

 

[Sony12]

Yeah it doesn't mean much. If she said 'I only want to hang out' it would probably mean she doesn't want things to proceed much further than they are now. But she just said thanks for hanging out. 

 

[secretsof1933]

54 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Yes you're over thinking. She said hangning out because it was a spur of the moment activity, not a planned date.

 

Thanks

Yea I did make metion the first 2 dates were actual dates. Ididntt say lets go hang out , i said how about we go on a date. ANd yesterday it was a spur of the moment thing

Edited December 15, 2024 by secretsof1933

[Sony12]

2 minutes ago, secretsof1933 said:

Thanks

Yea I did make metion the first 2 dates were actual dates. Ididntt say lets go hang out , i said how about we go on a date. ANd yesterday it was a spur of the moment thing

It's possible she just wants it to be more of a friendship (you two haven't really been that physical yet) but you won't know until you continue to go on more dates.

[Gaeta]

Time for a kiss on the lips on your next date. 

[Sony12]

Yes time for a kiss on the lips. Most guys she will be attracted to will be doing that on the first date and she would likely be having sex with them by the second or third date. If you don't pick up the affection soon she likely will start thinking that there isn't much chemistry between you two.

[smackie9]

You are over thinking it and should just carry on as usual.

[secretsof1933]

1 hour ago, smackie9 said:

You are over thinking it and should just carry on as usual.

Do you think it's time for kiss on lips?

[smackie9]

9 minutes ago, secretsof1933 said:

Do you think it's time for kiss on lips?

if it feels right then yes do it.

[secretsof1933]

9 hours ago, smackie9 said:

if it feels right then yes do it.

I should have done it yesterday but she had the sniffles

[ShyViolet]

I think you're really overthinking this.  Just because she used the phrase "hanging out" that doesn't necessarily mean she sees you as just a friend.  

[Esteban]

Yes, I would kiss her on the lips, just a little, see how she reacts, then maybe more. Assuming she will still do the hand holding again and has same level of interest, and you think she wants it, just do it. Just smile at her from very close and if she doesn't back away or turn to the side or otherwise indicate lack of interest then just move in slow enough than she has time to decide not to. But mostly just do it.

Ignore the hanging comment. If she declines the kiss maybe ask her to clarify why not. In a relaxed way.

If you don't kiss a woman by the third date, then she's thinking what do I have to do to get a kiss from him. Is he not interested? Is he gay or something or just shy?