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Jakie

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So I’ve been talking to this man for almost two months constantly all the time with out meeting him. Ft calls lots of texts etc. Now I know this is wild but …. I let some things slide. So in the beginning of us talking he had a date planned unexpectedly his parent went into cardiac arrest the day before our date. He texted me right away, yet still wanted to see me later that day ? I declined because “take care of your family, and we’ll reschedule”. 

A couple weeks go by and we’re still talking his parent is still in the hospital he scheduled something else and gave me a set time. The day comes and he’s slow with his replies, he claimed that he was at the hospital still helping his parent. I just told him no worries “it’s getting late don’t worry about our date today” About two hours after the original time that we were supposed to meet he started blowing up my phone insisting that I still meet him ? Keep in mind it’s like 8:30pm so I declined. We continued to still talk. His parent did end up passing a few weeks ago he texted me and told me and I sent my condolences. He still wanted to make things work with me and still talk etc.

He’s been out a few times to bars and with friends so I asked him why he hasn’t seen me yet ? We planned a set day which was yesterday. He sent me this excuse saying his barber canceled on him so he didn’t want to be seen in public without a hair cut ? I told him it was either today or I was going to walk away because I’m not going to keep wasting my time. He said he could see me at 6:30 sharp. The time comes and he’s dead silent, I gave it until 7pm So I decided to block him. He has been calling me from private numbers since last night ? Also texting me from fake accounts. I’m not sure what he wants, yet I’m not going to keep getting toyed with. 

I’ve never talked to a man this long without out meeting him, the only reason why I made an exception was because of his family circumstances. Yet things aren’t adding up and I don’t think he was ever truly going to meet me. I feel stupid and played with. He also knows where I work ? I don’t think he’ll do anything stupid but ? Idk it’s weird.

he sent me a 4 min voicemail telling me to unblock him and how I’m not the kinda man he needs to block. How he was on his way to come and meet me that day. He also said he wanted to pull up to my job but he felt like that would be weird.

 

 

 

 

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ExpatInItaly

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3 hours ago, Jakie said:

He also knows where I work ?

How does he know this? 

He sounds unhinged, frankly. Please don't have anything more to do with this person. 

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fadi20

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You feel like he's been playing with your feelings, and you're concerned because he knows where you work. You're unsure about his intentions and feel uncomfortable with the situation.

My advice:

Keep your boundaries: Stay firm in your decision to block him if it's best for you.

Seek support: Talk to friends or family about your concerns.

Stay alert: Watch for any signs of escalation in his behavior.

Prioritize your needs: Reflect on what you need in a relationship and trust your instincts.

Your well-being and safety come first.

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15 hours ago, Jakie said:

he sent me a 4 min voicemail telling me to unblock him and how I’m not the kinda man he needs to block. How he was on his way to come and meet me that day. He also said he wanted to pull up to my job but he felt like that would be weird.

He's lying but how does he know where you work?

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2 hours ago, stillafool said:

How he was on his way to come and meet me that day. He also said he wanted to pull up to my job but he felt like that would be weird.

This^ How does he know where you work and about coming to meet you.  He hasn't followed through before so of course he would say this now.

1 hour ago, Jakie said:

Lying about what ?

 

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BaileyB

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Lots of red flags here. I would stop talking to the man and hope that he doesn’t decide to come to your work.

 

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Jakie

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So I was talking to this man for awhile he said something that I didn’t like so I blocked him for a good two weeks. Keep in mind before this he was crazy over me calling me on different numbers when I would block him leaving me voicemails etc,

Make a long story short I ended up unblocking him, he started viewing my social media stories as I’m out of town we a “friend”. This is a man that’s wealthy and I’ve been posting stories of me in his car and on lavish dates….. I haven’t posted any sign of the the man except for his hand on the steering wheel of his car, not signs of his face.

I ended up hitting up the guy I blocked and he replied instantly. Later replied “shouldn’t you be f**ing the guy you’re out of town with”….. He then brought up how he’s talking to someone new and that he opened the door to talk to someone else since I blocked him? Keep in mind I didn’t even ask for any of this information? He then said “if we are going to get back together that he needed to make sure it’s for real so he won’t feel stupid for ending his new situation”? I told him that he didn’t have to tell me any of that information… he responded saying “I’m just being honest, you just don’t want your ego bruised, your obviously on a trip with a man, you get attention from men so why are you tripping” …. I didn’t even tell him I was on a trip with a friend cause why would I say that? It’s rude.

I do play games but I’ve never had a man be so direct with me about someone else? Just wanted to vent.

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I’m confused about your own intentions.

Whom do you want to date - the man you had previously blocked or the rich man with the car? None of them? Both of them?

Why did you hit up the man you’d blocked? Is the rich guy really a friend? It’s unclear, you put that word in quotation marks once, left the quotation marks out the second time. 

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You blocked him because you didn't like something he said. What was it, why was it so offensive? Then you unblocked him so that you could rub his nose in the fact that you were hanging out with some guy.  You say you were "talking to" him prior to all of this, so why would he say "get back together"? If all you've done is talk then you're weren't "together" in the first place. My advice is this; if he said something disrespectful about you or about other women, see it for what it is and heed the red flag. Secondly, don't play silly games with people, like blocking then unblocking and posting pictures on social media as a way to bait someone, because it just makes you look immature and ignorant. 

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23 hours ago, Jakie said:

I do play games but I’ve never had a man be so direct with me about someone else? Just wanted to vent.

I don't understand the problem: You unblocked this guy so that you could rub your lux dates in his face and get him to react.  That goal was achieved.  I would call this 'mission accomplished'   

If you don't want negative attention, stop boasting on your socials

 

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Girl, your picker. It needs major help. 

I would try to get to the bottom of why you are attracted to weird, crazy men. Where is your self-respect? Where are your boundaries? 

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