Jakie Posted Tuesday at 04:21 AM Share Posted Tuesday at 04:21 AM So I’ve been talking to this man for almost two months constantly all the time with out meeting him. Ft calls lots of texts etc. Now I know this is wild but …. I let some things slide. So in the beginning of us talking he had a date planned unexpectedly his parent went into cardiac arrest the day before our date. He texted me right away, yet still wanted to see me later that day ? I declined because “take care of your family, and we’ll reschedule”. A couple weeks go by and we’re still talking his parent is still in the hospital he scheduled something else and gave me a set time. The day comes and he’s slow with his replies, he claimed that he was at the hospital still helping his parent. I just told him no worries “it’s getting late don’t worry about our date today” About two hours after the original time that we were supposed to meet he started blowing up my phone insisting that I still meet him ? Keep in mind it’s like 8:30pm so I declined. We continued to still talk. His parent did end up passing a few weeks ago he texted me and told me and I sent my condolences. He still wanted to make things work with me and still talk etc. He’s been out a few times to bars and with friends so I asked him why he hasn’t seen me yet ? We planned a set day which was yesterday. He sent me this excuse saying his barber canceled on him so he didn’t want to be seen in public without a hair cut ? I told him it was either today or I was going to walk away because I’m not going to keep wasting my time. He said he could see me at 6:30 sharp. The time comes and he’s dead silent, I gave it until 7pm So I decided to block him. He has been calling me from private numbers since last night ? Also texting me from fake accounts. I’m not sure what he wants, yet I’m not going to keep getting toyed with. I’ve never talked to a man this long without out meeting him, the only reason why I made an exception was because of his family circumstances. Yet things aren’t adding up and I don’t think he was ever truly going to meet me. I feel stupid and played with. He also knows where I work ? I don’t think he’ll do anything stupid but ? Idk it’s weird. he sent me a 4 min voicemail telling me to unblock him and how I’m not the kinda man he needs to block. How he was on his way to come and meet me that day. He also said he wanted to pull up to my job but he felt like that would be weird. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted Tuesday at 07:47 AM Share Posted Tuesday at 07:47 AM 3 hours ago, Jakie said: He also knows where I work ? How does he know this? He sounds unhinged, frankly. Please don't have anything more to do with this person. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted Tuesday at 03:43 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 03:43 PM same same, just like what everyone else said over at the other site. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
fadi20 Posted Tuesday at 07:19 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 07:19 PM You feel like he's been playing with your feelings, and you're concerned because he knows where you work. You're unsure about his intentions and feel uncomfortable with the situation. My advice: Keep your boundaries: Stay firm in your decision to block him if it's best for you. Seek support: Talk to friends or family about your concerns. Stay alert: Watch for any signs of escalation in his behavior. Prioritize your needs: Reflect on what you need in a relationship and trust your instincts. Your well-being and safety come first. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted Tuesday at 07:31 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 07:31 PM 15 hours ago, Jakie said: he sent me a 4 min voicemail telling me to unblock him and how I’m not the kinda man he needs to block. How he was on his way to come and meet me that day. He also said he wanted to pull up to my job but he felt like that would be weird. He's lying but how does he know where you work? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jakie Posted Tuesday at 08:11 PM Author Share Posted Tuesday at 08:11 PM 40 minutes ago, stillafool said: He's lying but how does he know where you work? Lying about what ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted Tuesday at 10:04 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 10:04 PM 2 hours ago, stillafool said: How he was on his way to come and meet me that day. He also said he wanted to pull up to my job but he felt like that would be weird. This^ How does he know where you work and about coming to meet you. He hasn't followed through before so of course he would say this now. 1 hour ago, Jakie said: Lying about what ? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted Tuesday at 10:16 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 10:16 PM @Jakie Did you tell this person where you work? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jakie Posted Tuesday at 10:31 PM Author Share Posted Tuesday at 10:31 PM 14 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: @Jakie Did you tell this person where you work? Yes Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted Wednesday at 07:24 AM Share Posted Wednesday at 07:24 AM 8 hours ago, Jakie said: Yes May I ask why? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted Wednesday at 12:12 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 12:12 PM (edited) Lots of red flags here. I would stop talking to the man and hope that he doesn’t decide to come to your work. Edited Wednesday at 12:13 PM by BaileyB Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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