I'm not allowed to tell my girlfriend I intended to do something

[bitsad9999]

My girlfriend and I have been having some arguments lately. It seems to be a consistent pattern. For example yesterday we had a fight. She called me in the morning, I missed her call so called her back straight away , She then called me a few hours later as I was getting ready for the gym, I told her sorry i couldn't talk as i was getting ready for the gym. I actually ended up going to do some shopping so didn't go to the gym till a few hours later. She started texting me things and ending messages with "K" and then sent me some sad faces saying "y no call?" I told her i couldn't call her now as I was at the gym. I then finished the gym and called her, she texted me saying something like "i don't want you to call me just because i texted you to do it" . Eventually she answered, i told her how i was intending to call her after I finished the gym (which i genuinely was going to) but then she got upset and said that she was 'triggered' because she hates when i say i was "intending" to do something instead of actually doing it. This spiralled into a bit of a fight as she was saying how i wouldn't of called her if she had not initiated things, which i felt was really unfair as i told her i would of called her, but then i'm not allowed to say that i would of called her. Does that make sense? I really don't know how else I can communicate with her and show her i was genuinely intending to call her and i texted/called throughoiut the day and was responsive to her, but it doesn't seem enough?

TLDR: I am not allowed to tell my gf that i intend to do something how else can i speak to her?

[Gaeta]

I hate it too.

Sometimes my bf calls and says 'my intention was to drop at your place at the end of the day but work got crazy'. It drives me crazy when he says that. I tell him the same: don't tell me you *intended*.  I really don't like that wording. It sounds like an excuse. I much prefer hearing : sorry l will not be able to...sorry l was not able to...

It's not about him dropping by or not. It's the wording.

I know in his mind it sounds like a good wording. It's not. 

[ShyViolet]

It sounds like regardless, you guys are talking on the phone and texting each other multiple times throughout the day.  It's not like she hasn't heard from you in days.  She sounds like an exhausting nag who expects you to constantly call her, and if you don't, she throws a little tantrum and claims that she's "triggered".  This is pretty ridiculous and not a lot of people would put up with this.